Awakening integration of natural growth stages

Advanced Awakening Acceleration and Integration

The model below covers our natural growth stages in seven year cycles, and what becomes available in more advanced unified living, which can dawn at any age. The five domains of our human experience: Consciousness, Uniqueness, Mind, Emotions and Body all operate differently through each stage. Every cell shows the three key insights: what is needed at that stage, how identification is rendered, and what is not yet available - for contrast.

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7-YearGrowthStages
Dual Perception
0 – 77 – 1414 – 2121 – 2828 – 3535 – 4242 – 4949 – 56
Unified
Singular
1
Survival
Primary focus on staying alive
2
Self-Centric
Impulsive and self-absorbed
3
Conforming
Conforming to identity group
4
Rational Striving
Drive to know, prove, succeed, achieve, or win
5
Equality Harmony
Promoting "oneness" by battling hierarchical differences
6
Inclusive
Identities dissolve, opening to depth beyond polarities
7
Awakening
Fundamental shifts and openings into boundlessness
8
Oscillating
Leaning into the discomfort of apparent opposites
9
Embodied Unity
Nonseparate realization brings wholeness, wellness, and presence
10
Transforming
Core duality-based conditioning surfaces for healing
11
Individuating
Fundamentally untangled and liberated into life
12
Living Potential
Serving from alignment of purpose and power
13
Singular Realization
Dissolution of subject/object perspective
14
Flow
Life in fluid motion
NeedsIdentityNot YetAvailable
To be safe and nurtured with warmth, food, love, and bondingI’m dependent on othersSelf-awareness; agency
To get what I wantI’m a separate personOthers’ perspectives; impulse control
To feel support and belongingI belong to my identity groupIndependent thought; own truth
To find self-esteem and self-reliance through accomplishmentI'm independent and improving myselfEmotional depth; connection beyond winning
To experience universal connection with others and the planetI'm part of humanity and the planetIncluding the negative; self-acceptance
To release limiting beliefs about self, others, and worldI'm deepening and includingBoundless awareness
To recognize boundlessness in all DomainsI am boundlessnessInfinite and finite together
To transcend fixating on polaritiesI'm sometimes infinite, sometimes finiteStable non-separation
Own unity realization and have that confirmed by othersI am Everything, Nothing, and meHealed conditioning
To thoroughly heal and realign with realized wholenessI am everything healing my humannessLiberated, untangled living
To adjust to post-transformation life and live your unique purpose or functionI am Everything expressing through my human uniquenessFull outward service
To bring my unique gifts into the worldI am everything, passionately giving my deepest giftsSelflessness
None prescribedNo constructed self — no identity offered from Stage 13 onFrictionless flow
None prescribedNo constructed self — no identity offered from Stage 13 onUnknown — ongoing evolution
Conscious
ness
Attention focused on immediate needs
To be at the center of caregivers’ attentionAttention on immediate needsSelf-awareness
Awareness absorbed in one's own immediate wants
To discover a sense of self-awarenessAbsorbed in own wantsAwareness of others; group limits
Awareness developing within the limits of identity group
To conform to caregivers’ expectations of how consciousness appearsTo experience consciousness within socially acceptable boundariesI try to be more like the people around me so I fit inOwn control of attention
Controlling awareness to achieve wants
To discover that consciousness can help achieve personal goalsTo control awareness for individual success and advantageI consciously control where I put my attentionWitnessing; yearning for depth
Seeking universal connection and learning to witness experience
To expand awareness beyond personal limitsTo seek deeper meaning and purpose beyond material experienceI yearn to find something that is deeper and more connective than ordinary material experienceDissolution of the sense of self
Expanding awareness starts dissolving limited sense of self
To allow previous senses of self to fall away while embracing new awarenessesTo embrace mystery, discomfort, and all experience consciouslyEverything I find disturbing about others I can find in myselfAwareness awake as itself
Awareness awakens as itself
To stabilize the realization of boundless awarenessTo realize one’s identification with infinite impersonal natureI know that I am the spacious presence that experiences my lifeInfinite and finite at once
Trying to hold the tension of being both finite and infinite
To embrace the tension of being both finite and infinite, individual and universalTo integrate awakened awareness with human experienceI experience myself sometimes as boundless awareness, other times as my ordinary selfUnity with bodymind
Consciousness is experienced as unified with personal domains
To recognize, acknowledge, and own the realization of embodied unityTo notice that one’s life patterns are based in duality, requiring realignmentMy consciousness and bodymind are all part of the same unified selfAwareness turned toward wounds
Awareness illuminates and transforms deep wounds and conditioning
To heal the Phase 1 conditioning that held Consciousness as separateTo release the habit of controlling awareness to avoid unhealed issuesMy awareness keeps lighting up unconscious or outdated patterns for me to healUndisturbed presence in all situations
Deeply embodied presence in most situations
To turn attention outward and serve the world from unified consciousnessTo accept that embodying your gifts will sometimes bring pain to self and othersEmbodied awareness is present and undisturbed no matter what is happeningPresence in everything
Serving from fully-engaged presence
To embody one's function while embracing fearTo serve self and others with fully engaged presenceTo release control, trust life completely, and surrender to the flow of existenceMy unified sense of self has moved into the backgroundRelease from self-referencing
Awareness released from self-referencing
To experience life without resistance, removing the illusion of subject-object dualityTo recognize living in Singularity while remaining fully engaged and individuatedMy sense of self disappearedFlow
Awareness flows without resistance
Free from desire to practiceMy awareness flows without resistance or sense of selfUnknown — ongoing evolution
Unique
ness
Uniqueness expressed unconsciously
To be supported for who we areUnconscious uniquenessAwareness of own uniqueness
Limited awareness of the value of my uniqueness
To be seen and supported in one’s own unique personality and ways of being in the worldImpulsive expression of personalityValue of uniqueness
Recognizing uniqueness acceptable to identity group
To get support and appreciation for one’s uniquenessTo explore and express aspects of one’s individuality that align with group normsI change my personality as needed to fit inOwn truth above belonging
Using uniqueness to achieve wants
To discover one’s individuality while striving to achieve goalsTo develop a positive sense of unique selfI use my personality to get what I wantUniqueness for its own sake
Valuing uniqueness to promote egalitarian ideals
To find harmony with others while embracing unique differencesTo use personal gifts in service of a greater causeHarmony with my friends is more important than expressing my uniquenessSelf-acceptance; accepting others as they are
Starting to accept who one is and who one is not
To let go of "who I should be" and relax into "who I am"To embrace authenticity even if it means losing approval or relationshipsI’m learning to accept my uniquenessWitnessing the personality
Realizing and appreciating one’s uniqueness
To recognize and claim the inherent rightness of one's own unique gifts and limitsTo appreciate the gifts and limits of others without comparison or judgmentI witness my own personalityPersonality and being at once
Identity alternates between personality and universal Being
To embrace the paradox of being unique and universalTo integrate the experience of individual self and boundless consciousnessSometimes I feel bound to my personality, sometimes I feel completely free from itAt home in oneself
Personality is realized as a non-separate expression of being
To acknowledge and own the union of unique personality and universal beingTo embody one's unique qualities as an integral part of the universal wholeI know I’m different from others, but I don’t feel fundamentally separate from anyoneHealed self-negation
Fundamental healing of self-negation
To integrate all previously rejected or suppressed aspects of one’s uniquenessTo empower oneself to embody and actualize one’s unique gifts in the worldI own my strengths and limits both privately and publiclyClear purpose lived freely
Liberated to live unique truth
To clarify one’s unique purpose or functionTo begin serving others and the world through one's authentic individualityI feel free to live my authentic selfNothing stopping the gifts
Serving by living deepest purpose
To fully embody one's deepest gifts and unique purpose despite fearsTo manifest one's full potential in service of collective evolutionNothing stops me from giving my unique giftsPersonality without a self
Personality expresses without attachment to sense of self
To release all desire for a separate sense of self associated with uniquenessTo embody personal uniqueness with no inner resistance to feelings or outcomesMy personality no longer creates a sense of separate selfFlow
Free flowing self
Free from desire to practiceMy uniqueness flows with no resistance or sense of selfUnknown — ongoing evolution
Mind
Thinking occupied with survival needs
To have our needs understoodSurvival thinkingThought vs reality
Absorption in one's own thoughts
To discriminate what thoughts to act onAbsorbed in own thoughtsShared beliefs; discrimination
Only allowing thoughts and beliefs acceptable to identity group
To think within identity group limitsTo align thoughts and beliefs with social norms and expectationsI adopt others’ beliefs in order to fit inIndependent reasoning
Trying to rationally optimize one's life
To control thoughts and acquire knowledge to feel secure and successfulTo prove one’s value through intellectual achievement and competenceLogic and rational thinking are more important to me than emotions and intuitionsObserving the mind; peace of mind
Seeking peace of mind through positive thinking
To seek inner peace through positive thinking and thought controlTo seek harmony with others though common ideas and idealsI try to think more positive thoughtsAccepting negative thoughts; opposing views
Limiting beliefs about self and life begin disintegrating
To allow and include all beliefs, including ones that conflict uncomfortablyTo embrace cognitive complexity by integrating diverse perspectivesI accept my own angry, sad, fearful, or judgmental thoughtsThoughts within spacious awareness
Able to witness thoughts while knowing oneself as the container of spaciousness
To release exclusive identification with mindTo realize identity as the consciousness that experiences all thoughtsI know that I am the awareness that is aware of my thoughtsThoughts and spaciousness at once
Trying to hold the paradox of known and unknown
To relax into the discomfort of mystery while yearning for understandingTo hold the paradox of knowable and unknowable without reactionI find myself alternately absorbed in my mind and aware of spacious awarenessSelf located in whole being
Personal thoughts are known as aspects of being
To acknowledge and own the mind's unity with beingTo know personal thoughts as one aspect of one’s whole beingMy sense of self shifted from my mind to my whole beingFreedom from believing negative thoughts
Releasing self-deceiving beliefs
To update the mind's ways of functioning from duality to unityTo release self-limiting beliefs for goodI no longer automatically believe negative thoughts about myselfThinking free of social norms
Liberated from internal chatter to think clearly and authentically
To discover how to think authentically and creativelyTo express one's unique perspectives and insights despite fears of rejectionMy mind is free to think differently from others and from social normsThoughts no longer limiting speech
Serving life through potent clarity
To think and express authentically despite fears of consequencesTo serve life through intellectual insightMy thoughts no longer hold me back from fully speaking and living my truthThoughts without a self
Thoughts happen without attachment to sense of self
To allow thoughts to flow as universal intelligence, without self-reflectionTo live the singularity of individual cognition and universal intelligenceMy thoughts are not associated with a sense of selfFlowing intelligence
Intelligence free-flowing
Free from desire to practiceIntelligence flows through me without resistance or sense of selfUnknown — ongoing evolution
Emotions
Survival-based instinctive emotional reactions
To be loved unconditionallyInstinctive reactionsEmotional awareness; regulation
Emotionally self-absorbed
To become aware of one’s own emotionsSelf-absorbed feelingOthers’ feelings; acceptable expression
Only allowing feelings acceptable to identity group
To feel safe, loved, and know that we belongTo express only emotions acceptable to our identity groupI avoid emotions others find unacceptableOwn full feelings
Minimizing emotions to avoid complexity and achieve goals
To manage emotions in order to achieve goals and maintain controlTo feel emotionally self-sufficient and independent from othersI tend to minimize my emotions when I’m with othersEmotional depth; love and gratitude
Prioritizing love and positivity over disharmony
To feel harmonious and experience a sense of equal value among humansTo prioritize love and positivity over disharmony and negative emotionsI prioritize positive emotions over negative onesAccepting all emotions
Learning to stay present to all emotions
To be present with feelings of dissolution while opening to larger truthsTo begin embracing all emotions as precious aspects of the human experienceI want to feel all my emotions, including those I find challengingUniversal love as container
Universal love is the space for all emotions
To love yourself deeply and unconditionallyTo experience universal love for all beings and phenomenaI witness my emotions arising in spacious awarenessLove and emotion together
Trying to hold the tension of unconditional love and personal emotions
To embrace the paradox of universal love and personal emotionsTo integrate the full spectrum of emotions with the stillness of consciousnessI experience spacious awareness alternating with personal emotionsIntimacy with life
Feeling emotions as waves of being
To acknowledge and own the unity of emotions with beingTo experience emotions as waves of universal beingI feel intimate with lifeHealed emotional wounds
Unified awareness enables core healing of emotional wounds and conditioning
To update emotional functioning from duality to unityTo fully integrate and heal core emotional wounds and conditioningMy awareness is drawn to my unhealed emotionsUnconditional self-love
Continuous unconditional self-love
To discover your unique ways of supporting emotional healing in othersTo permit yourself to be a template for others’ emotional healingI experience unconditional self loveHeart given without reservation
Serving from unconditional love
To emote authentically despite fears of consequencesTo embody the full spectrum of emotions as an evolutionary template for othersI give my heart without reservation to the work I feel called to doSelfless love
Emotions flowing without attention to self
To experience emotions without subject/object duality or paradoxTo love others for their sakeMy emotions do not create a separate sense of selfLove in flow
Free-flowing love
Free from desire to practiceEmotions flow through me without resistanceUnknown — ongoing evolution
Body
Instinctive survival-based physical reactions
To be safe, in peace, protected, and nurtured with food, clothing, warmth, shelter, medicinesInstinctive reactions; self fused with bodyAwareness of impact on and from others
Exclusive focus on satisfying physical wants
To learn the impact of our physical behaviors on ourselves and othersSatisfying physical wantsImpulse control; social shaping
Physical development shaped by social norms
To develop physically within acceptable social norms and valuesTo gain approval and acceptance through physical appearance and behaviorsI try to behave according to the rulesBody’s own limits
Ignoring or over-managing the body
To discover the body’s limits through willpower and disciplineTo prove self-worth through bodily accomplishments and appearanceWhen immersed in tasks, I tend to overlook my physical needsBody awareness and care
Seeking harmony through physical disciplines
To find physical harmony and balance through personal development practicesTo purify or align the body with higher ideals or spiritual principlesI try to take care of my bodyPresence to all sensations
Noticing unaligned physical conditioning
To begin the release of physical and energetic constrictions by feeling themTo include all body sensations, states, needs, and patterns in one’s awarenessI’m able to stay present with all my physical sensationsSpaciousness in the body
Experiencing spaciousness in the body
To realize that the body exists within spacious emptinessTo experience boundlessness extending through and beyond the bodyI experience spacious awareness permeating my bodyBody and emptiness at once
Trying to hold awareness of body and spaciousness simultaneously
To relax into acceptance of being both physical and non-physicalTo integrate transcendent experiences with everyday physical existenceI identify with my body and unbounded spaciousness at the same timeBody one with life
Realizing the unity of body and being
To realize the unity of body and beingTo acknowledge and own the body's inseparability from consciousnessI experience my body as one with lifeHealed body conditioning
Healing and transforming deep physical conditioning
To heal and transform deep physical conditioningTo embody unity consciousness through physical form and behaviorMy body feels at least 80% healed of past wounds and conditioningMoving from body’s wisdom
Moving from the body’s unconditioned wisdom
To discover how to move and behave in alignment with selfTo embody one's unique essence through physical expressionI move from a primary trust of my body’s wisdomFearless authentic action
Serving from deeply embodied Presence
To act from authenticity despite fears of consequencesTo release all resistance to following the body’s wisdomI do what is right for me despite fears of consequencesBody without a self
Body moves freely without attachment to sense of self
To get used to experiencing the body without subject/object perspectiveTo allow life to flow through the body without self-generated resistanceMy identity as a separate body went awayFree flow
Body flows freely through the world
Free from desire to practiceLife flows through my body without resistance or sense of selfUnknown — ongoing evolution
Dual Perception
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Unified
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Singular
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Dual phase · stage 1 of 14 · Consciousness
1
Survival · Consciousness
Primary focus on staying alive
Attention focused on immediate needs
No refinement questions at this stage.
To be at the center of caregivers’ attentionAttention on immediate needsSelf-awareness
Practices · Consciousness
  1. It’s ok to need attention. Ask for the attention you need and when you get it, take it in.
  2. Give yourself attention. Become aware of yourself by noticing what you think, feel and do.
Dual phase · stage 1 of 14 · Uniqueness
1
Survival · Uniqueness
Primary focus on staying alive
Uniqueness expressed unconsciously
No refinement questions at this stage.
To be supported for who we areUnconscious uniquenessAwareness of own uniqueness
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Tune into your personal needs and wants. Find ways to get your unique needs met in ways that work for you.
  2. Explore what makes you unique. When others suggest what’s unique about your gifts and limits, see if it feels true.
Dual phase · stage 1 of 14 · Mind
1
Survival · Mind
Primary focus on staying alive
Thinking occupied with survival needs
No refinement questions at this stage.
To have our needs understoodSurvival thinkingThought vs reality
Practices · Mind
  1. Notice your thoughts. Become aware of when your attention is more in your mind versus in your emotions or physical sensations.
  2. When you don’t need to be thinking, practice bringing your attention to your body. What’s it like to live life from a place other than from thinking?
Dual phase · stage 1 of 14 · Emotions
1
Survival · Emotions
Primary focus on staying alive
Survival-based instinctive emotional reactions
No refinement questions at this stage.
To be loved unconditionallyInstinctive reactionsEmotional awareness; regulation
Practices · Emotions
  1. Connect with your emotions by putting your attention on them.
  2. Honor your emotions by finding ways to get your emotional needs met.
  3. Journal about a situation that you find upsetting. What are your feelings saying?
Dual phase · stage 1 of 14 · Body
1
Survival · Body
Primary focus on staying alive
Instinctive survival-based physical reactions
No refinement questions at this stage.
To be safe, in peace, protected, and nurtured with food, clothing, warmth, shelter, medicinesInstinctive reactions; self fused with bodyAwareness of impact on and from others
Practices · Body
  1. Honor your body’s needs by noticing them and finding ways to fulfill them.
  2. When you can’t fulfill your own physical needs, ask for help. When help is offered, accept it.
Dual phase · stage 2 of 14 · Consciousness
2
Self-Centric · Consciousness
Impulsive and self-absorbed
Awareness absorbed in one's own immediate wants
No refinement questions at this stage.
To discover a sense of self-awarenessAbsorbed in own wantsAwareness of others; group limits
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Sit quietly and allow your awareness to expand into the space around you. Notice the sense of existing in a larger field of awareness.
  2. When you discover something about yourself you weren’t previously aware of, journal about it. Writing down your observations will help you integrate the new parts you discover.
Dual phase · stage 2 of 14 · Uniqueness
2
Self-Centric · Uniqueness
Impulsive and self-absorbed
Limited awareness of the value of my uniqueness
No refinement questions at this stage.
To be seen and supported in one’s own unique personality and ways of being in the worldImpulsive expression of personalityValue of uniqueness
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Do you have the sense that there is something wrong with your unique self? Journal about what you think is wrong.
  2. Next, journal about what might be right or amazing about your uniqueness.
Dual phase · stage 2 of 14 · Mind
2
Self-Centric · Mind
Impulsive and self-absorbed
Absorption in one's own thoughts
No refinement questions at this stage.
To discriminate what thoughts to act onAbsorbed in own thoughtsShared beliefs; discrimination
Practices · Mind
  1. Spend time observing your thoughts without acting on them.
  2. Journal about what patterns you see in your thoughts.
  3. Notice how these thought patterns show up in your daily life, and the impact they have.
Dual phase · stage 2 of 14 · Emotions
2
Self-Centric · Emotions
Impulsive and self-absorbed
Emotionally self-absorbed
No refinement questions at this stage.
To become aware of one’s own emotionsSelf-absorbed feelingOthers’ feelings; acceptable expression
Practices · Emotions
  1. Journal about your experiences and how they make you feel.
  2. Spend time during your day consciously attending to your emotions by simply feeling them without acting on them.
Dual phase · stage 2 of 14 · Body
2
Self-Centric · Body
Impulsive and self-absorbed
Exclusive focus on satisfying physical wants
No refinement questions at this stage.
To learn the impact of our physical behaviors on ourselves and othersSatisfying physical wantsImpulse control; social shaping
Practices · Body
  1. Spend time noticing your own impulses and actions. See if you can feel the tendency to act based on a feeling you don’t like.
  2. Journal about the effects acting on impulse has had on those around you.
  3. When you feel impulsive, practice not acting on your feelings.
Dual phase · stage 3 of 14 · Consciousness
3
Conforming · Consciousness
Conforming to identity group
Awareness developing within the limits of identity group
  • I try to be more like the people around me so I fit in.
  • I avoid questioning authority.
How important is it for you to fit in with the groups you're part of?
If you emphasize a strong need to conform or express anxiety about not fitting in, this suggests Stage 3. Look for responses indicating you prioritize group acceptance over your own unique expression.
When making decisions, how much do you consider what others expect of you?
Stage 3 individuals typically place high importance on meeting others' expectations. If your decision-making process heavily revolves around pleasing others or avoiding disapproval, this points to Stage 3.
How comfortable are you expressing opinions that differ from those around you?
At Stage 3 you often struggle with voicing dissenting views. If you express significant discomfort with expressing your true thoughts and feelings, this suggests Stage 3.
How often do you avoid questioning authority?
If you indicate you frequently avoid questioning authority, this strongly suggests Stage 3. At this stage, individuals tend to accept established norms and hierarchies without critical examination, often without awareness of their fears.
To what extent do you feel your identity is defined by the groups you belong to?
Stage 3 consciousness typically involves a strong identification with social groups. If you express that your sense of self is heavily dependent on your roles or group memberships, this may indicate Stage 3.
To conform to caregivers’ expectations of how consciousness appearsTo experience consciousness within socially acceptable boundariesI try to be more like the people around me so I fit inOwn control of attention
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Journal about your experiences of consciousness, God or universal presence.
  2. Write about how these experiences are similar to or different from others in your family, church or others around you.
Dual phase · stage 3 of 14 · Uniqueness
3
Conforming · Uniqueness
Conforming to identity group
Recognizing uniqueness acceptable to identity group
  • I change my personality as needed to fit in.
  • Speaking my truth is not as important as belonging in a group.
How do you balance expressing uniqueness with fitting in socially?
Look for responses that indicate a conscious effort to express individuality while also seeking group approval. Stage 3 individuals often describe carefully choosing which unique qualities to reveal based on social context.
In what ways do you feel your uniqueness is supported or limited by others?
Stage 3 responses typically highlight the importance of external validation. Listen for examples of how the individual's expression of uniqueness is shaped by the reactions and expectations of others.
To what extent do you feel you know your authentic truth, separate from the roles and identities you've taken on?
Stage 3 individuals may express uncertainty about their core identity or struggle to differentiate between their authentic self and the personas they've adopted for different social contexts.
How often do you change your personality to fit in?
If this is true most of the time, the person is likely in Stage 3 of Uniqueness.
To get support and appreciation for one’s uniquenessTo explore and express aspects of one’s individuality that align with group normsI change my personality as needed to fit inOwn truth above belonging
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Journal – What do you want to explore that may not be acceptable to your family, friends or coworkers?
  2. Journal – What do you hide about yourself from your family or identity group? 3. Contemplate – If you could do anything you want, what would it be? What would be fun for you?
  3. Keep a journal to explore your unique qualities, interests, and perspectives. Write freely without judgment, focusing on aspects of yourself you may not typically share. This builds self-awareness and confidence in your individuality.
  4. Explore identity through creative arts: Engage in activities like painting, writing, or music to express your uniqueness without social pressure. Use this space to explore different facets of your identity and experiment with self-expression.
  5. Gradual authenticity challenge: Share one authentic aspect of yourself weekly with a trusted friend. Start with low-risk disclosures and gradually increase vulnerability. Reflect on how it feels to be more authentic.
Dual phase · stage 3 of 14 · Mind
3
Conforming · Mind
Conforming to identity group
Only allowing thoughts and beliefs acceptable to identity group
  • I adopt others’ beliefs in order to fit in.
  • I tend not to question what my mind tells me
How often do you find yourself agreeing with your group's opinions without questioning them?
If you frequently align your thoughts with your group's beliefs without critical examination, this suggests Stage 3. Look for responses indicating automatic acceptance of group ideologies.
How comfortable are you exploring ideas that challenge your group's beliefs?
Stage 3 individuals often feel uneasy when confronted with thoughts that contradict their group's norms. If you express discomfort or avoidance of such ideas, this points to Stage 3.
How often do you question or critically examine the beliefs you've inherited from your family or community?
If you rarely examine inherited beliefs, this strongly suggests Stage 3. At this stage, individuals tend to accept established thought patterns without much reflection.
How do you react when encountering viewpoints that differ significantly from those of your group?
Stage 3 thinking often involves discomfort or dismissal of opposing viewpoints. If you express automatic rejection or strong discomfort with differing perspectives, this may indicate Stage 3.
To think within identity group limitsTo align thoughts and beliefs with social norms and expectationsI adopt others’ beliefs in order to fit inIndependent reasoning
Practices · Mind
  1. Journal about three things you believe that are important to you. They can be beliefs about anything.
  2. With each of those beliefs, ask yourself, “Am I open to this belief changing?” If the answer is no, journal about why.
  3. Journal about your thoughts and beliefs, noting which ones you've adopted from your family, friends, or community.
  4. Practice listening to different perspectives without immediately agreeing or disagreeing. Simply observe your reactions.
  5. Engage in a dialogue with someone who holds different views, focusing on understanding their perspective rather than defending your own.
Dual phase · stage 3 of 14 · Emotions
3
Conforming · Emotions
Conforming to identity group
Only allowing feelings acceptable to identity group
  • I avoid emotions others find unacceptable
  • I'm unaware of my own anger, sadness, or fear
How comfortable are you expressing emotions that differ from those around you?
Stage 3 individuals often struggle with expressing emotions that aren't accepted by their group. If they express significant discomfort or anxiety about this, it suggests Stage 3.
To what extent do you find yourself suppressing certain emotions to fit in?
If you frequently suppress emotions to maintain group harmony or avoid disapproval, this strongly indicates Stage 3.
How aware are you of your own anger, sadness, or fear?
Stage 3 individuals often have limited awareness of their own emotions, especially those deemed unacceptable. If they struggle to identify these feelings, it points to Stage 3.
How much do you rely on others to know how you should feel in different situations?
Stage 3 often involves looking to others for emotional cues. If they heavily depend on external validation for their emotional responses, this suggests Stage 3.
How often do you experience emotions that you can't explain or don't understand?
Stage 3 individuals may feel confused by emotions that don't align with group expectations. Frequent unexplained emotional experiences may indicate Stage 3.
To feel safe, loved, and know that we belongTo express only emotions acceptable to our identity groupI avoid emotions others find unacceptableOwn full feelings
Practices · Emotions
  1. Journal about any emotions you tend to avoid or suppress. Do you know why?
  2. Observe your emotions without judgment or trying to fix them or make them different.
  3. Express your true feelings with people you trust to keep your confidence.
  4. Journal about emotions you tend to avoid or suppress. Reflect on why these feelings might be challenging for you.
  5. Practice observing your emotions without judgment. Set aside time each day to simply notice what you're feeling without trying to change or fix anything.
  6. Gradually express your true feelings with trusted individuals. Start small, sharing minor emotional experiences, and build up to more significant disclosures as you feel comfortable.
Dual phase · stage 3 of 14 · Body
3
Conforming · Body
Conforming to identity group
Physical development shaped by social norms
  • I try to behave according to the rules
  • I try to make my body look acceptable to others
How big is your priority to behave according to social rules or expectations?
If they put high importance on this or struggle in this area more than half the time, it suggests they are in Body Stage 3. Ask questions to see if they seem stuck here.
How important is it for you to dress and present yourself in a way that fits in with your social group?
Most people want to look their best, but those in Stage 3 are determined to conform to acceptable appearances due to fear of rejection (whereas people in Stage 4 are more likely to conform in order to achieve something). If making themselves look like others is a high priority for the sake of belonging, score at 3.5 or higher.
To what extent do you engage in physical activities like sports or recreation primarily because others expect you to, or to gain social approval?
Stage 3 individuals often participate in activities to meet social expectations rather than personal interest.
To what degree do you base your eating habits and food choices on what's considered acceptable or popular in your social circle?
In Stage 3, dietary choices are often heavily influenced by social norms. If their food choices are primarily based on social acceptance, score around 3.1. If there's some individual preference emerging, score closer to 3.5 or higher.
To develop physically within acceptable social norms and valuesTo gain approval and acceptance through physical appearance and behaviorsI try to behave according to the rulesBody’s own limits
Practices · Body
  1. Get regular physical exercise. Pay special attention to the balance between the need to find your own limits and your body’s need not to be overly taxed.
  2. Journal about your relationship with what and how you eat. Are your conditioned patterns around food working for your body?
  3. Ask others you trust to tell you what they like about your body or your physical ways of being and take in their sincere feedback. Over time, keep asking for positive feedback until you feel you truly are accepted physically.
  4. Stand in front of a mirror for 5 minutes daily, observing your body with curiosity and compassion. Notice any critical thoughts based on social expectations and practice replacing them with self-acceptance and positive observations for who you are.
  5. Dance alone to music you love in ways that feel natural and authentic to you, without concern for how it looks or what others might think.
Dual phase · stage 4 of 14 · Consciousness
4
Rational Striving · Consciousness
Drive to know, prove, succeed, achieve, or win
Controlling awareness to achieve wants
  • I set goals for myself and always strive to achieve them.
  • I consciously control where I put my attention.
How important is it for you to achieve personal success and recognition?
If you emphasize a strong drive for personal achievement and recognition, this suggests Stage 4. Look for responses indicating you prioritize individual accomplishments over group harmony or conformity.
When making decisions, how much do you rely on your own judgment versus seeking others' opinions?
Stage 4 individuals typically place high importance on independent thinking and decision-making. If your decision-making process heavily revolves around your own analysis and goals, this points to Stage 4.
How comfortable are you with challenging established norms or authorities?
At Stage 4 you often feel more confident questioning established systems. If you express willingness to challenge norms or authorities based on your own reasoning, this indicates at least Stage 4.
How important is it for you to set and pursue personal goals?
If you indicate it’s a top priority to set and actively work towards personal goals, this strongly suggests at least Stage 4. At this stage, individuals are driven by a desire for high achievement, and self-improvement is often in service of that.
To what extent do you feel your identity is defined by your accomplishments?
Stage 4 Consciousness typically involves a strong identification with individual achievements. If you express that your sense of self or worth is heavily dependent on your personal successes, this suggests Stage 4.
To discover that consciousness can help achieve personal goalsTo control awareness for individual success and advantageI consciously control where I put my attentionWitnessing; yearning for depth
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Meditate. Find a comfortable place without distractions and sit comfortably with your eyes closed for at least 15 minutes. Be aware of your own breath moving in and out. Allow thoughts to come and go. Allow a transition before returning to activity.
  2. During the day, practice noticing that you are aware of everything you experience.
Dual phase · stage 4 of 14 · Uniqueness
4
Rational Striving · Uniqueness
Drive to know, prove, succeed, achieve, or win
Using uniqueness to achieve wants
  • I know what my truth is, even if it’s not popular.
  • I use my personality to get what I want.
How comfortable are you standing out or being different from your social groups?
Look for responses that indicate a growing willingness to differentiate oneself from others. Stage 4 individuals often describe feeling more confident in expressing their unique traits, even if they don't align with group norms.
In what ways do you actively cultivate or express your individuality?
Stage 4 responses typically highlight intentional efforts to develop and showcase unique qualities. Listen for examples of how the individual pursues personal interests, develops skills, or expresses themselves in ways that set them apart from others.
What do you do when your authenticity conflicts with others' expectations?
At this stage, there's often a growing ability to maintain one's individuality in the face of social pressure. Look for responses indicating a willingness to disagree with or challenge others, even if it creates fear, tension, or discomfort.
How much is your sense of self defined by unique qualities versus social roles?
Stage 4 individuals often express a stronger sense of their core identity, separate from external expectations or roles. Look for responses that indicate a clear understanding of personal values, preferences, and characteristics.
How often do you feel the need to conform to others' expectations?
If the person indicates they rarely feel the need to conform and instead prioritize authentic self-expression, they are likely in at least Stage 4 of Uniqueness.
To discover one’s individuality while striving to achieve goalsTo develop a positive sense of unique selfI use my personality to get what I wantUniqueness for its own sake
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Journal about what you hide from others and why. In what ways does that work to your benefit? In what ways does that hurt you and others?
  2. Contemplate what stops you from simply expressing your unique self. Is there something you don’t want to feel? What does your mind tell you might happen if you do express yourself?
  3. List all the ways you are weird.
  4. Write daily about moments you felt most authentic. Reflect on bringing more genuine self-expression into your life. Notice fears about being your true self.
  5. Develop a skill that feels uniquely "you". Practice regularly, focusing on how it reflects your individuality rather than comparing yourself to others.
  6. Identify situations where you compromise your uniqueness. Practice asserting your authentic self, starting small and gradually increasing comfort with standing out.
Dual phase · stage 4 of 14 · Mind
4
Rational Striving · Mind
Drive to know, prove, succeed, achieve, or win
Trying to rationally optimize one's life
  • Logic and rational thinking are more important to me than emotions and intuitions.
  • Gathering knowledge is more important to me than feelings.
How much do you rely on rational thinking to solve problems or make decisions?
Stage 4 individuals often heavily rely on logical analysis and rational thinking. If you express a strong preference for analytical approaches over intuitive or emotional ones, this suggests Stage 4.
To what extent do you believe that acquiring more knowledge will lead to success or security?
Stage 4 often involves a belief that knowledge equals power or security. If you strongly associate knowledge acquisition with personal success or safety, this indicates Stage 4.
How comfortable are you with uncertainty or not knowing something?
Stage 4 individuals typically struggle with uncertainty. If you express significant discomfort with ambiguity or a strong need to always have answers, this points to Stage 4.
To what extent do you believe that you can control outcomes through careful planning and thinking?
Stage 4 often involves an overestimation of mental control. If you express a strong belief that thorough planning can guarantee desired outcomes, this indicates Stage 4.
To control thoughts and acquire knowledge to feel secure and successfulTo prove one’s value through intellectual achievement and competenceLogic and rational thinking are more important to me than emotions and intuitionsObserving the mind; peace of mind
Practices · Mind
  1. During your day, pay attention to the endless flow of your thoughts. When thoughts flow in a direction that you know isn’t good for you, practice putting your attention on something that helps you.
  2. Notice any tendencies you may have to prove to others that you know a lot. Without self-judgment, explore where that comes from. What fears are associated with this tendency?
  3. Watch the patterns of thoughts that consistently come into your mind. Notice the feelings that come along with the repeating thoughts.
  4. Practice mindfulness meditation, focusing on observing thoughts without attachment or judgment.
  5. Keep a journal of recurring thoughts and beliefs, noting their impact on your emotions and actions.
  6. Engage in activities that require presence and embodiment, such as dance or sports, to balance mental activity.
Dual phase · stage 4 of 14 · Emotions
4
Rational Striving · Emotions
Drive to know, prove, succeed, achieve, or win
Minimizing emotions to avoid complexity and achieve goals
  • I tend to minimize my emotions when I’m with others
  • I try to manage my emotions, but I still get triggered fairly easily.
How often do you find yourself trying to suppress, ignore, or minimize uncomfortable emotions?
If you frequently report attempting to push aside difficult feelings, this suggests Stage 4.
To what extent do you rely on logic and reason to deal with emotional situations?
Stage 4 individuals often prioritize rational thinking over emotional processing. A strong preference for logical approaches indicates this stage.
How comfortable are you expressing vulnerability or asking for emotional support?
Resistance to emotional vulnerability or reluctance to seek support points to Stage 4. This stage often involves a strong desire for emotional self-sufficiency, leading individuals to view vulnerability as a weakness and resist reaching out for help, even when they could deeply benefit from it.
How often do you use work, achievements, or goal-setting to avoid dealing with emotions?
If you regularly use external accomplishments as a distraction from inner feelings, this suggests Stage 4.
To what degree do you believe that showing emotions is a sign of weakness?
Stage 4 often involves the belief that emotional control equals strength. Strong agreement with this idea indicates this stage.
To manage emotions in order to achieve goals and maintain controlTo feel emotionally self-sufficient and independent from othersI tend to minimize my emotions when I’m with othersEmotional depth; love and gratitude
Practices · Emotions
  1. When an uncomfortable emotion arises, consciously stay with it. When you notice it, let yourself feel it, lean into it, and fully accept it.
  2. Talk about your emotional taboos with someone you can trust and ask them to help you be ok with those feelings.
  3. Keep an emotions journal, noting your feelings throughout the day without judgment. Observe any patterns of avoidance or suppression.
  4. Practice "feeling and naming" - when an emotion arises, consciously allow yourself to feel it fully and give it a specific name or description.
  5. Engage in regular body scans or mindfulness exercises to increase awareness of the physical sensations associated with different emotions.
Dual phase · stage 4 of 14 · Body
4
Rational Striving · Body
Drive to know, prove, succeed, achieve, or win
Ignoring or over-managing the body
  • When immersed in tasks, I tend to overlook my physical needs
  • I tend to use others to get what I want
How often do you set and pursue specific fitness or physical appearance goals?
In Stage 4, individuals frequently set and pursue physical goals. If they consistently engage in goal-oriented fitness or appearance-related patterns, score at 4.5.
To what extent do you believe that controlling your body is a sign of personal strength or worth?
Stage 4 often involves equating bodily control with personal value. If they strongly link self-worth to physical discipline, score around 4.5. This belief can manifest in various ways, such as extreme or regimented exercise routines, strict diets, or a preoccupation with physical appearance as a measure of success.
How comfortable are you with deviations from your ideal body image?
In Stage 4, there's often an inconsolable discomfort with perceived bodily flaws. This discomfort may manifest as a constant drive to "fix" or improve perceived flaws, even when others might not notice them or consider them insignificant. If they express significant distress about such imperfections, it suggests Body Stage 4.
Do you prioritize physical achievements or appearance over other parts of your life?
Stage 4 can involve overemphasis on physical and material accomplishments. If physical goals consistently take precedence over other life areas, Stage 4 is likely..
How often do you push through physical discomfort or ignore bodily signals in pursuit of your goals?
Stage 4 often involves overriding bodily wisdom with willpower. If they frequently ignore physical signals to achieve goals, score around 4.5.
To discover the body’s limits through willpower and disciplineTo prove self-worth through bodily accomplishments and appearanceWhen immersed in tasks, I tend to overlook my physical needsBody awareness and care
Practices · Body
  1. Spend time consciously not doing things. Relax, be in nature, or hang out with friends, with nothing to do but enjoy.
  2. Stretch your body; consider yoga or other formal body disciplines. The aim is to feel what your body needs and wants, no matter what others believe is good or right.
  3. Before you do something to your body, ask your body what it wants. Love your body enough to consciously follow what it wants.
  4. Spend 10 minutes daily writing about physical sensations you typically ignore. Reflect on what your body might be communicating and why you might care.
  5. Practice a daily 15-minute body scan meditation, focusing on sending kindness and acceptance to each part of your body, especially areas you typically judge or wish to change.
Dual phase · stage 5 of 14 · Consciousness
5
Equality Harmony · Consciousness
Promoting "oneness" by battling hierarchical differences
Seeking universal connection and learning to witness experience
  • I yearn to find something that is deeper, more meaningful, or more connective than ordinary material experience.
  • Being in harmony with those around me is more important than standing on my own
How important is it for you to feel connected to others and the world around you?
If you emphasize a strong desire for universal connection and harmony, this suggests Stage 5. Look for responses indicating you prioritize cooperation and global awareness over individual achievement.
To what extent do you seek meaning and purpose beyond material success?
Stage 5 individuals typically place high importance on finding deeper significance in life. If your motivations revolve around personal growth, spirituality, or making a positive impact, this points to at least Stage 5.
How committed are you to promoting equality and justice?
At Stage 5 you often feel a strong drive to address societal issues and inequalities. If you express passion for creating positive change in the world, yet cannot understand or accept that injustice and inequality are also part of life, this suggests Stage 5.
How often do you engage in personal growth practices?
If you indicate you frequently engage in activities like meditation, self-reflection, yoga, or personal development workshops, this strongly suggests Stage 5 or above. Individuals are driven by a desire for holistic growth and self-understanding to overcome the problems of fear and self negation.
To what extent do you strive to live with integrity?
Stage 5 consciousness typically involves a strong commitment to authenticity and integrity. However, if they are still mostly editing themselves, this indicates Stage 5.
To expand awareness beyond personal limitsTo seek deeper meaning and purpose beyond material experienceI yearn to find something that is deeper and more connective than ordinary material experienceDissolution of the sense of self
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Sit in meditation with your eyes closed and watch your thoughts and sensations without any attempt to control what you experience. Practice noticing that you are witnessing your own thoughts and sensations.
  2. Practice gazing with a partner. Sit together silently, holding each other’s gaze. Relax and simply witness the parade of thoughts, sensations, and perceptions that spontaneously occur. After an agreed time, thank each other and discuss your experience of noticing the witness consciousness or being it. Also notice and discuss what sensations or perceptions tend to pull you out of knowing that you are the witness.
  3. Set aside 10-15 minutes daily to sit quietly and observe your thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations without judgment. Notice you are aware of these experiences.
  4. Spend time in nature regularly. As you observe the natural world around you, consciously expand your awareness to feel a sense of connection and unity with your surroundings. Notice how this shifts your perception of self and reality.
Dual phase · stage 5 of 14 · Uniqueness
5
Equality Harmony · Uniqueness
Promoting "oneness" by battling hierarchical differences
Valuing uniqueness to promote egalitarian ideals
  • Harmony with my friends is more important than expressing my uniqueness
  • I’m learning to accept other people as they are (Lack of self-acceptance and inclusion of others’ realities shows that the person is not yet at Stage 6)
How often do you prioritize harmony with friends over expressing your uniqueness?
At Stage 5, people often value group harmony and may sacrifice some aspects of their uniqueness to maintain it. However, unlike Stage 4, they are more conscious of this trade-off.
How do you balance expressing your uniqueness with promoting equality and harmony in your relationships and communities?
Look for responses that indicate a conscious effort to use individual uniqueness as a tool for promoting social good. Stage 5 individuals often describe finding ways to express themselves authentically while also fostering inclusivity and equality.
How do you use your unique gifts to contribute to causes or ideals you believe in?
Stage 5 responses typically highlight how personal uniqueness is channeled into social activism or community service. Listen for examples of how the individual uses their distinct talents or perspectives to address societal issues or promote positive change.
How do you navigate situations where your desire for equality conflicts with your need to assert your own agency, control, or authority?
At this stage, there's often a nuanced understanding of the tension between individual power and collective harmony. Look for responses indicating thoughtful consideration of how to express oneself authentically without perpetuating inequality or exclusion.
To find harmony with others while embracing unique differencesTo use personal gifts in service of a greater causeHarmony with my friends is more important than expressing my uniquenessSelf-acceptance; accepting others as they are
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Journal about the ways you are unique. Write down at least 10 ways you show up uniquely. Then write about the gifts that come with your uniqueness.
  2. Contemplate what stops you from simply expressing your unique self. Is there something you don’t want to feel? What does your mind tell you might happen if you do express yourself?
  3. Once a day, identify one unique trait and express it while maintaining group harmony.
  4. Practice respectfully voicing differing opinions in low-stakes situations. Focus on expressing your truth without creating conflict.
  5. Create a piece of art that represents your uniqueness. Share it with others, embracing both your individuality and connection to the group.
Dual phase · stage 5 of 14 · Mind
5
Equality Harmony · Mind
Promoting "oneness" by battling hierarchical differences
Seeking peace of mind through positive thinking
  • I try to think more positive thoughts.
  • I’m starting to observe the patterns of my mind.
How often do you try to replace negative thoughts with positive ones?
Stage 5 individuals often engage in conscious efforts to think more positively. If you frequently attempt to reframe negative thoughts into positive ones, this suggests Stage 5.
Do you believe that controlling your thoughts can lead to inner peace?
Stage 5 often involves a belief that mental control is key to wellbeing. If you strongly associate thought management with inner peace, this indicates Stage 5.
How much do you engage in practices like affirmations or visualization to improve your mindset?
Such approaches can be helpful for many situations, but deliberate use of mental techniques as a default response to negative feeling states is common in Stage 5. If you regularly use such practices, this points to Stage 5.
How comfortable are you with experiencing negative or unpleasant thoughts?
Stage 5 individuals often struggle with accepting negative thoughts. If you express discomfort with or a desire to eliminate negative thinking, this suggests Stage 5.
To what extent do you believe that your thoughts create your reality?
Stage 5 often involves a belief in the power of thoughts to shape experiences. It’s not that there’s no truth to this, but it obscures the fact that it’s often motivated by unconscious fear, vs. acceptance of one’s feeling states, which starts around Stage 6.
To seek inner peace through positive thinking and thought controlTo seek harmony with others though common ideas and idealsI try to think more positive thoughtsAccepting negative thoughts; opposing views
Practices · Mind
  1. Journal – What do I get from trying to change my thoughts?
  2. Practice discriminating your thoughts from your feelings. Notice that some feelings can drive certain thought patterns. When this happens, see if you can process your feelings on their own level instead of trying to work them out in your mind.
  3. Practice observing your thoughts without judgment, noting both positive and negative thoughts equally.
  4. Explore the underlying emotions or needs beneath recurring negative thoughts rather than immediately trying to change them.
  5. Experiment with allowing uncomfortable thoughts to be present without resistance.
Dual phase · stage 5 of 14 · Emotions
5
Equality Harmony · Emotions
Promoting "oneness" by battling hierarchical differences
Prioritizing love and positivity over disharmony
  • I prioritize positive emotions over negative ones
  • I avoid uncomfortable conversations
Do you find yourself trying to replace negative emotions with positive ones?
If you frequently attempt to shift from negative to positive feelings, this suggests Stage 5. Look for signs of idealism and avoidance of emotional discomfort.
Do you tend to avoid uncomfortable conversations?
In Stage 5 there is strong avoidance of negative emotional encounters with others.
To what extent do you believe that focusing on love and harmony can resolve emotional conflicts?
Stage 5 individuals often prioritize positive emotions. A strong belief in the power of love to overcome difficulties indicates this stage.
How comfortable are you with expressing or experiencing "negative" emotions like anger or sadness?
Difficulty accepting or expressing challenging emotions points to Stage 5. Individuals at this stage often strive to maintain a positive emotional state, viewing negative emotions as obstacles to harmony and personal growth rather than as natural, valuable aspects of the human experience.
How often do you seek to maintain emotional harmony in your relationships, even at the expense of your own needs?
If you regularly prioritize relational harmony over individual emotional authenticity, this suggests Stage 5.
To feel harmonious and experience a sense of equal value among humansTo prioritize love and positivity over disharmony and negative emotionsI prioritize positive emotions over negative onesAccepting all emotions
Practices · Emotions
  1. Try not fixing or changing your emotions. See what happens if you are simply present with them.
  2. Our ability to love others is limited to our ability to love ourselves. As you move through your day, practice loving who you are and everything you do. This doesn’t mean you will like everything you feel or experience; it’s simply a practice of self-acceptance and self embrace.
  3. Practice "emotional inclusion" by consciously allowing yourself to experience both positive and negative emotions without judgment.
  4. Practice regularly giving yourself love and compassion for everything you feel, just as you would for your own child.
  5. Keep a gratitude journal, noting three things you're grateful for each day, to help shift focus towards positive aspects of life while still acknowledging challenges.
Dual phase · stage 5 of 14 · Body
5
Equality Harmony · Body
Promoting "oneness" by battling hierarchical differences
Seeking harmony through physical disciplines
  • I try to be more aware of my body
  • I try to take care of my body
How comfortable are you with exploring non-conventional or alternative approaches to physical health and wellness?
In Stage 5, there's often an openness to alternative health paradigms. If they actively embrace non-conventional approaches, they are likely at least in Stage 5.
To what extent do you view your body as interconnected with your mind, emotions, and spirit?
Stage 5 involves recognizing the body as part of a larger holistic system. If they strongly emphasize this interconnection in their daily life, it suggests Stage 5 or above.
To what degree do you prioritize creating a harmonious physical environment?
Stage 5 can involve extending the desire for harmony to one's physical surroundings. If they consistently care about creating energetically harmonious spaces, they are likely in Stage 5 or above.
What guides your choices around food, cooking, and eating?
In Stage 5, dietary choices are often more influenced by mental, ethical, or spiritual ideas than by one’s direct physical health responses. If dietary choices are more guided by “experts” than direct physical responses, you are likely in Stage 5.
To find physical harmony and balance through personal development practicesTo purify or align the body with higher ideals or spiritual principlesI try to take care of my bodyPresence to all sensations
Practices · Body
  1. Sit or lie down with eyes closed and scan your body from head to toes, relaxing with every breath. Feel whatever is present without judgment.
  2. See if you can identify physical sensations you have been interpreting as bad or wrong. Then just be with those sensations, without trying to change them.
  3. Before each meal, take a moment to connect with your food. Reflect on its origin, the life it provides, and your gratitude for it. Eat slowly and mindfully, enjoying it, while paying attention to flavors, textures, and how your body feels.
  4. Spend 10-15 minutes each morning doing gentle stretches or yoga poses while feeling energy flowing through your body and into your environment.
  5. Once a week, spend at least 30 minutes in nature. Walk barefoot when possible, breathe deeply, and consciously tune into the natural rhythms around you. Reflect on how your body feels more harmonious and aligned when connected with your natural environment. Make this a foundational practice for the rest of your life.
Dual phase · stage 6 of 14 · Consciousness
6
Inclusive · Consciousness
Identities dissolve, opening to depth beyond polarities
Expanding awareness starts dissolving limited sense of self
  • Everything I find disturbing about others I can find in myself
  • Everything I like in others i can find in myself
How comfortable are you letting go of your previous identities and self-concepts?
If you express a willingness or even eagerness to release old self-definitions and explore a more expansive sense of being, this suggests Stage 6. Look for responses indicating you're experiencing a dissolution of fixed identities.
Have you experienced anything you might describe as a dark night of the soul or existential crisis?
Stage 6 starts after one has seen the limits of both material (Stage 4) and spiritual (Stage 5) worldviews. One no longer knows what to trust (inside or out), or what to move toward. The result is an often unwilled descent into the dark spaces that have been avoided. Embracing discomfort begins the process of conscious embodiment.
How do you relate to uncertainty and not-knowing in your life?
Stage 6 consciousness typically involves a growing comfort with uncertainty. If you express a decreasing need for mental certainty and an increasing embrace of the unknown, this indicates Stage 6.
I accept negative experiences as a necessary part of life.
If not, they’re not yet entering Stage 6.
I seek to find ultimate answers to existential questions of life and self.
At this Stage it becomes clear that without finding meaningful answers about life and self, little else matters. So one becomes willing to search not just for the light, but also for answers in the darker places.
To allow previous senses of self to fall away while embracing new awarenessesTo embrace mystery, discomfort, and all experience consciouslyEverything I find disturbing about others I can find in myselfAwareness awake as itself
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Sit with eyes closed in meditation on simple presence. Allow thoughts to move through you without resistance. Once you feel simple presence, notice anything that seems to remove you from that.
  2. Practice allowing thoughts and feelings while simultaneously being the presence. Notice that this presence is witnessing your thoughts, sensations, and emotions.
  3. Be persistent in trying different approaches. Each person must find their own way to discover their own infinite nature.
  4. Sit quietly for 15-20 minutes daily. Focus on being the observer of your thoughts, emotions, and sensations rather than identifying with them.
  5. Spend 10 minutes each day writing about your experiences of expanded consciousness. Reflect on how these experiences are changing your perspective on life and self.
Dual phase · stage 6 of 14 · Uniqueness
6
Inclusive · Uniqueness
Identities dissolve, opening to depth beyond polarities
Starting to accept who one is and who one is not
  • I’m learning to accept my uniqueness
  • I’m learning to accept other people as they are
What’s more important - expressing your authentic feelings or social approval?
At this stage, there's a growing ability to prioritize authenticity over pleasing others. People begin to realize that accepting who they are is more important than harmony and belonging. This leads to willingness to face disapproval and feel existential fear.
How good are you at accepting your own and others’ weirdness?
In Stage 6, people start noticing and accepting that they’re just as weird as others.
In what ways have you let go of beliefs about who you "should" be?
Stage 6 responses typically highlight a process of questioning and releasing internalized expectations. Listen for examples of how the individual has begun to embrace aspects of themselves they previously rejected or suppressed.
To what extent do you feel you've accepted both your strengths and limitations?
Stage 6 individuals are beginning to embrace a more holistic view of themselves. Look for responses that indicate growing self-acceptance, including acknowledgment of both positive and challenging aspects of self.
How has your relationship with your own uniqueness evolved in recent years?
Look for responses that indicate a shift towards greater self-acceptance and authenticity, even while struggling with that. Stage 6 individuals often describe feeling more at peace with who they are, even if it means not fitting in as easily as before.
To let go of "who I should be" and relax into "who I am"To embrace authenticity even if it means losing approval or relationshipsI’m learning to accept my uniquenessWitnessing the personality
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Contemplate and journal about the challenges that come with being your unique self. What do you feel makes it hard or even dangerous for you to be completely true to yourself?
  2. Notice any ways in which you deny your truth in relationships. Do you prematurely agree with others? How does it feel when you do that
  3. Daily, choose one situation to express your genuine self, even if it risks disapproval. Reflect on the experience and your feelings.
  4. Spend 10 minutes daily acknowledging and embracing both positive and challenging aspects of yourself. Notice resistance without judgment.
  5. In conversations, practice stating your honest perspective, even when it differs from others. Focus on expressing your truth while remaining open to others' views.
Dual phase · stage 6 of 14 · Mind
6
Inclusive · Mind
Identities dissolve, opening to depth beyond polarities
Limiting beliefs about self and life begin disintegrating
  • I accept my own angry, sad, fearful, or judgmental thoughts.
  • I welcome diverse and opposing perspectives and beliefs in others.
How comfortable are you with allowing contradictory thoughts or beliefs to coexist?
Stage 6 individuals often develop an increased capacity to hold differences. If you express comfort with seemingly conflicting ideas, this suggests Stage 6.
How often do you find yourself observing your thoughts without getting caught up in them?
If you report frequent experiences of witnessing thoughts without attachment, this points to Stage 6.
To what extent do you accept your own angry, sad, fearful, or judgmental thoughts?
Acceptance of “negative” states begins in Stage 6. Accepting “negative” thoughts doesn’t empower them to get worse, it just means the person is accepting that they are actually happening. Score early acceptance at 6.0, medium acceptance at 6.5
How comfortable are you with uncertainty or not knowing?
Stage 6 often involves greater ease with ambiguity. If you express comfort with uncertainty and open-ended questions, this suggests Stage 6.
To what extent do you feel your sense of self is separate from your thoughts?
Stage 6 often involves the start of loosening identification with thoughts. If you express a sense of self that's distinct from your thought processes, this may indicate Stage 6.
To allow and include all beliefs, including ones that conflict uncomfortablyTo embrace cognitive complexity by integrating diverse perspectivesI accept my own angry, sad, fearful, or judgmental thoughtsThoughts within spacious awareness
Practices · Mind
  1. Practice observing your thoughts as if they were things said on TV. Not everything that’s said on TV is important, and not every thought in your mind is worth attaching yourself to.
  2. Question and challenge your own thoughts and beliefs and be willing to change your perspectives.
  3. Listen to the opinions of people who have very different beliefs than yours. Notice how you feel, and whether you’re willing to fully feel it or not. Try on beliefs that conflict with your own and see what happens if you’ve just curious and don’t take sides.
  4. Practice "thought labeling" - silently noting thought categories as they arise (e.g., "planning," "judging," "remembering," “futurizing”) without engaging with their content.
  5. Explore writing stream-of-consciousness for 10 minutes daily, allowing all thoughts to flow without censorship or judgment.
  6. Experiment with holding two opposing ideas in mind simultaneously (i.e., “I am everything” and “I am nothing”), observing your reactions without trying to resolve the contradiction.
Dual phase · stage 6 of 14 · Emotions
6
Inclusive · Emotions
Identities dissolve, opening to depth beyond polarities
Learning to stay present to all emotions
  • I try accept all my emotions as they are
  • I want to feel all my emotions, including those I find challenging
How often do you find yourself able to sit with dark or uncomfortable emotions without trying to change or avoid them?
Stage 6 involves an increased desire and willingness to be present with all emotions, including aloneness, despair, meaninglessness, or directionlessness.
To what extent do you view challenging emotions as opportunities for growth rather than obstacles to overcome?
Stage 6 individuals often see difficult emotions as valuable teachers. A strong agreement with this perspective indicates this stage.
How comfortable are you with allowing old identities or beliefs about yourself to dissolve?
Stage 6 often involves a willingness to let go of fixed self-concepts. Comfort with this process points to this stage.
How often do you notice yourself observing your emotions rather than being completely identified with them?
Increased yet inconsistent ability to witness emotions without being exclusively absorbed by them is characteristic of Stage 6.
To what degree do you want to feel all your emotions?
If they truly want to feel all emotions (whether or not they actually do that), the desire puts them at 6.5. Stage 6 involves recognizing the inherent value in all emotional experiences. Strong agreement with this idea indicates Stage 6.
To be present with feelings of dissolution while opening to larger truthsTo begin embracing all emotions as precious aspects of the human experienceI want to feel all my emotions, including those I find challengingUniversal love as container
Practices · Emotions
  1. When you find yourself getting triggered or reacting to a situation, take a moment and name the emotion. Then simply feel it and embrace it, as deeply as you can, without blaming yourself or others, and without trying to fix it or understand it. Practice sinking into the emotions without distracting yourself from them.
  2. Next time you put on a happy face, ask yourself if that’s what you’re really feeling.
  3. Practice speaking the truth of what you feel in your relationship. Be careful not to blame others, simply take responsibility for your own feelings. The more skillfully you can do this, the more others will feel your integrity.
  4. Practice "emotional surfing" by consciously riding the waves of your emotions without trying to change them. Notice how they naturally arise, peak, and subside.
  5. Engage in a daily "emotional check-in" meditation, where you scan your body and notice what emotions are present without judgment or analysis.
  6. Journal insights gained from sitting with and exploring challenging emotions.
Dual phase · stage 6 of 14 · Body
6
Inclusive · Body
Identities dissolve, opening to depth beyond polarities
Noticing unaligned physical conditioning
  • I want to feel my body sensations, whether painful or pleasurable
  • I’m able to stay present with all my physical sensations
Do you want to feel your body sensations, whether painful or pleasurable?
Those in Stage 6 have a genuine desire to feel the reality of all sensations, even though they also struggle to allow that. The desire to feel everything is based on the realization that trying to avoid “negative” feelings only led them to more suffering.
How much are you able to stay present with uncomfortable physical sensations?
Stage 6 imparts the desire and developing capacity to stay present with pain.
How aware are you of your body's unique responses to food, exercise, and other experiences?
Those in Stage 6 are inclined to notice what does and doesn’t work for their body.
Do you find yourself questioning whether certain physical behaviors feel natural or conditioned?
Starting in Stage 6, people become curious about how much their bodies are responding to present inputs vs. reacting from old body conditioning.
How comfortable are you with allowing old physical patterns to shift or dissolve?
Individuals in Stage 6 report increasing comfort with allowing the dissolution of old conditioned patterns, even though that can be scary or uncomfortable.
How attuned do you feel to your body's needs for rest, nourishment, and movement?
Those in Stage 6 start becoming more interested in their authentic physical responses to life than in others’ ideas of what they should do or how they should be.
To begin the release of physical and energetic constrictions by feeling themTo include all body sensations, states, needs, and patterns in one’s awarenessI’m able to stay present with all my physical sensationsSpaciousness in the body
Practices · Body
  1. Explore your physical patterns, looking for those that feel out of harmony with who you are.
  2. When letting go of old conditioning, it is important to be held by others so we can feel safe to let of old patterns. Find a trusted friend, loved one or ally who can physically hold you while you unwind.
  3. Give yourself the gift of a massage or some other therapy that helps you completely relax.
  4. Find healing through your connection to nature.
  5. Spend 10 minutes daily lying down and slowly scanning your body from head to toe, welcoming all sensations equally.
  6. Set aside 15 minutes to move your body freely, following its natural impulses without planning or structure.
  7. For one week, record how different foods affect your energy, mood, and physical sensations, noting any patterns that emerge.
Dual phase · stage 7 of 14 · Consciousness
7
Awakening · Consciousness
Fundamental shifts and openings into boundlessness
Awareness awakens as itself
  • I am aware of spacious presence.
  • I know that I am the spacious presence that experiences my life.
How often do you notice that something is witnessing or observing your life?
If a person can say yes to this most of the time they check in, they are at least at early Stage 7 in Consciousness. Not all feel witnessing as if separate; some experience a silence or a pristine clarity pervading or suffusing all things and experiences.
How often do you experience spacious presence or boundless awareness?
If you report frequent or persistent experiences of pure consciousness beyond the personal self, this strongly indicates Stage 7.
To what extent are you able to maintain a sense of awakened presence amidst daily activities and challenges?
Stage 7 individuals are working to stabilize and integrate their awakening awareness. Descriptions of occasional spaciousness states suggest early Stage 7. If you describe an ongoing process of bringing awakened awareness into everyday life, including difficult situations, this points to later Stage 7.
I know that I AM the spacious presence that experiences my life.
If they can say yes to this most of the time, they have noticed not only that there is a nonmaterial reality present, but that it’s also who they are in their own subjective essence. You can score a yes here at 7.5.
To stabilize the realization of boundless awarenessTo realize one’s identification with infinite impersonal natureI know that I am the spacious presence that experiences my lifeInfinite and finite at once
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Close your eyes and feel your face and your whole body. Then imagine picking up a magic eraser and use it to erase your face and your body. What remains? Explore if that feels like it’s you.
  2. With eyes closed, feel yourself sitting at the back of your head, witnessing your thoughts and experiences as if from a distance.
  3. Once you can easily notice the sense of witnessing with your eyes closed, practice noticing the same sense of boundlessness with your eyes open.
  4. Witnessing meditation: Sit quietly for 20-30 minutes daily. Instead of focusing on an object, rest as the awareness that observes all experiences. Notice thoughts, emotions, and sensations arising and passing without getting caught up in them. Cultivate the sense of being the unchanging witness to all changing phenomena.
  5. Self-inquiry throughout the day: Regularly pause and ask yourself "Who or what am I, really?" or "What is aware of this experience right now?" Allow the question to open up a direct recognition of your essential nature as awareness itself.
Dual phase · stage 7 of 14 · Uniqueness
7
Awakening · Uniqueness
Fundamental shifts and openings into boundlessness
Realizing and appreciating one’s uniqueness
  • I witness my own personality.
  • I deeply embrace both the upsides and the downsides of my personality.
How deeply do you embrace the upsides and downsides of your personality?
In Stage 7, the awakening of consciousness gives us the ground to embrace our unique self, despite our limits. An "often" reply here can be scored at 7.5
How comfortable are you with expressing your uniqueness, even when it differs significantly from those around you?
The Stage 7 embrace helps individuals awaken to and stand in their uniqueness. Practicing embrace in any Domain supports embrace in all Domains.
How good are you at accepting a compliment?
At Stage 7, people can accept a compliment without deflecting it because they are deeply accepting their distinct traits and abilities.
What happens when you take time to look at yourself in a mirror?
If you report self-criticism when looking in a mirror, you may still be in Stage 6. As you begin to see goodness in your reflection, you are entering Stage 7 in Uniqueness.
How do you respond when others react negatively to your self-expression?
Look for responses indicating an ability to stay true to oneself while honoring others' uniqueness.
With friends, how often do you hold yourself back out of fear of their reactions?
Individuals in Stage 7 still feel the pattern of self-editing, but are embracing their authenticity while respecting others.
To recognize and claim the inherent rightness of one's own unique gifts and limitsTo appreciate the gifts and limits of others without comparison or judgmentI witness my own personalityPersonality and being at once
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Write down what is good about each of your gifts and your limits.
  2. Reflect on and write down what is perfect about someone you don’t like.
  3. Write 10 things that are great about your unique gifts and talents. Explore your fears about claiming those things publicly or with friends.
  4. Weekly, dedicate time to cultivating a skill that feels uniquely "you."
  5. Before interactions, set an intention to remain true to yourself, even if it means standing out.
Dual phase · stage 7 of 14 · Mind
7
Awakening · Mind
Fundamental shifts and openings into boundlessness
Able to witness thoughts while knowing oneself as the container of spaciousness
  • I experience thoughts arising in a field of spacious awareness
  • I know that I am the awareness that is aware of my thoughts.
How often do you experience a sense of spaciousness in which your thoughts arise?
Stage 7 often involves an emerging awareness of consciousness as distinct from thoughts. If you report frequent experiences of witnessing thoughts from a place of spacious awareness, this suggests Stage 7.
To what extent do you feel identified with your thoughts versus observing them?
Stage 7 involves a shift from being fully identified with thoughts to observing them. If you express a growing ability to witness thoughts without getting caught up in them, this indicates at least Stage 7.
How often do you notice thoughts coming and going without engaging them?
Increased capacity to observe the transient nature of thoughts is common in Stage 7. If you report frequent experiences of watching thoughts come and go without attachment, this points to Stage 7.
How comfortable are you with allowing all thoughts to be present without trying to change or control them?
Stage 7 involves increased acceptance of all thoughts. If you express growing ease with allowing thoughts to arise without judgment or attempts to control, this may indicate Stage 7.
To release exclusive identification with mindTo realize identity as the consciousness that experiences all thoughtsI know that I am the awareness that is aware of my thoughtsThoughts and spaciousness at once
Practices · Mind
  1. With eyes closed, notice that you are witnessing your thoughts. Notice that consciousness is the empty spaciousness through which your thoughts are passing. For some, it’s easier to notice that no matter what attention is currently directed at, there’s always space leftover around the edges. Or something intangible that persists unchanged no matter what we experience.
  2. When you’re good at noticing you are witnessing thoughts with your eyes closed, try maintaining that disposition with your eyes open, through all experience, physical, emotional, mental, visual, etc.
  3. Practice sitting in silent awareness, noticing you are the space in which all thoughts arise.
  4. Experiment with welcoming all thoughts equally, including those previously judged as negative or unwanted.
  5. Explore writing or speaking from spacious awareness, allowing thoughts to flow without censorship or editing.
Dual phase · stage 7 of 14 · Emotions
7
Awakening · Emotions
Fundamental shifts and openings into boundlessness
Universal love is the space for all emotions
  • I welcome and embrace negative emotions as much as positive ones
  • I witness my emotions arising in spacious awareness
Do you welcome and embrace negative emotions as much as positive ones?
If they are inclined to welcome negative emotions as much as positive ones, score at 7.0. If they actually do that once a day or more, score at 7.4 or above.
How often do you notice your emotions arising in spacious awareness?
If this is true at least sometimes when they check in, you can score at 7.1.
How often do you find yourself experiencing spontaneous feelings of love and compassion for strangers or even difficult people?
Repeated experiences of unconditional love for all beings suggest Stage 7.
To what extent do you feel an abiding love for yourself, despite your flaws?
Stage 7 brings a basic form of self-love and self-acceptance. Strong agreement indicates this stage or above. Self-love reaches 80% at the end of Stage 10.
How comfortable are you with allowing strong emotions to flow through you?
Stage 7 often involves the beginning ability to experience emotions without being overwhelmed by them. There is usually a sense of separation between self and emotions as an unconscious means of creating safety to feel.
To what degree do you feel that love is the fundamental nature of reality, beyond just an emotion?
Stage 7 involves recognizing love as the essence of existence. Strong agreement with this idea indicates this stage.
To love yourself deeply and unconditionallyTo experience universal love for all beings and phenomenaI witness my emotions arising in spacious awarenessLove and emotion together
Practices · Emotions
  1. Be present with someone who is sharing their feelings with you. Allow yourself to feel their joy and pain without trying to change any of it. Notice the sense of universal connection this creates.
  2. Notice the ways you’ve been conditioned to hate yourself. Journal about this and the impact it’s had on your happiness.
  3. Find something you’ve been beating yourself up for and take a more compassionate look at yourself. Can you see that you did your best at the time?
  4. Practice getting real with your feelings. Notice what you actually feel versus what your mind thinks is right, appropriate, or acceptable. Journal about your emotional truths.
  5. Write daily affirmations and expressions of love and appreciation for yourself, including aspects you previously judged or rejected.
  6. Spend time listening to deeply moving music and allow all emotions to arise.
Dual phase · stage 7 of 14 · Body
7
Awakening · Body
Fundamental shifts and openings into boundlessness
Experiencing spaciousness in the body
  • I experience spacious awareness permeating my body
  • I experience awareness extending beyond the boundaries of my body
Do you experience spacious awareness permeating your body?
If you report frequent experiences of spacious awareness within or permeating your body, score at 7.3 or above.
Do you experience awareness extending beyond the boundaries of your body?
If you experience this at least once a week, score at 7.1 or above. More frequent experiences indicate higher scores within Stage 7.
Has your sense of self become rooted in something more expansive than the body?
If you report a growing sense of identity beyond the body, score at 7.5 or above.
Do you ever feel a contrast between your body and your consciousness?
If you experience this duality, even if disorienting, score at 7.4 or above. More comfort with this contrast and the ability to hold both perspectives simultaneously suggests higher scores within Stage 7, potentially approaching 7.9.
Do you wonder how to relate to your body given these new perceptions?
Some uncertainty about engaging with the physical form given new perceptions is common in Stage 7. If you express this, it confirms your placement in this stage. Greater ease with these new perceptions suggests progression towards later Stage 7 or early Stage 8.
To realize that the body exists within spacious emptinessTo experience boundlessness extending through and beyond the bodyI experience spacious awareness permeating my bodyBody and emptiness at once
Practices · Body
  1. Meditate on the feeling of spaciousness in the body
  2. Notice that spaciousness is the part of you that registers your own embodied experience. In other words, the spacious emptiness is You
  3. Notice that you witness your body with eyes open during the day
  4. Sit or lie down and spend time just feeling the spaciousness in your body. Feel your skin and your energy and also feel the infinite space that permeates your body.
  5. Stand with eyes closed and gradually expand your sense of self beyond your skin, encompassing the room, building, and surrounding area. Notice how your body feels as your perceived boundaries expand.
  6. During daily activities, practice maintaining awareness of both your physical sensations and the infinite space in which all experience occurs. Notice how this dual awareness affects your movements and interactions.
Dual phase · stage 8 of 14 · Consciousness
8
Oscillating · Consciousness
Leaning into the discomfort of apparent opposites
Trying to hold the tension of being both finite and infinite
  • I experience myself sometimes as boundless awareness, other times as my ordinary self.
  • I am both boundless awareness and my human self at the same time.
Do you experience yourself sometimes as boundless awareness, other times as your ordinary self?
A yes here would score 8.0. If it happens often, 8.5 Adding a powerful yearning for unity with frequent unity experiences can push the score to 8.9.
Are you able to hold your personal and impersonal nature together at the same time and just feel the rub, difference, or paradox of that without needing to resolve it?
After some period of alternating in identity between “big self” (consciousness) and “small self” (body, mind, emotions, and personality), it’s natural to be able to hold both at the same time. A yes here would score 8.5 or higher.
How do you experience the relationship between your individual self and universal consciousness?
If you describe a dynamic interplay or simultaneous experience of both individual identity and boundless awareness, this suggests Stage 8. The ability to hold both perspectives without conflict comes in later Stage 8.
How often do you experience a sense of unity or non-separation?
Momentary states of unity consciousness is often a feature of Stage 8. If you report frequent experiences of non-separation or deep interconnectedness either in meditation or while engaging with others and the world, this indicates late Stage 8.
To embrace the tension of being both finite and infinite, individual and universalTo integrate awakened awareness with human experienceI experience myself sometimes as boundless awareness, other times as my ordinary selfUnity with bodymind
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Sit with eyes closed and rest as your awareness. Bring your attention to the feeling of being your body. Notice your awareness just being with your body. Notice any discomfort in holding the both-ness of consciousness and body. Stay with this both-ness a little longer each time.
  2. Sit silently with another person, gazing into each other’s eyes. Allow and embrace whatever feelings are present. Notice yourself, notice the other, and notice what happens when you release the self/other duality.
  3. Bothness meditation: Begin by resting as pure awareness, then gradually bring your attention to your thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations. Practice holding both your transcendent awareness and your human experience simultaneously. Notice any tension or resistance to this bothness and gently allow it to be present.
  4. Take a slow, mindful walk outdoors. As you walk, maintain awareness of your body's movements and sensations while simultaneously resting in spacious awareness. Notice you can be both infinite and this particular human, moving through space.
Dual phase · stage 8 of 14 · Uniqueness
8
Oscillating · Uniqueness
Leaning into the discomfort of apparent opposites
Identity alternates between personality and universal Being
  • Sometimes I feel bound to my personality, sometimes I feel completely free from it.
  • I experience that I am unbounded awareness and my personality at the same time.
Have you felt sometimes bound to your personality, and other times felt completely free from it? How often do these oscillations occur?
Once a month would score 8.0, once a week would score 8.2, once or more a day suggests 8.4.
How comfortable are you with the apparent contradiction of being both a unique individual and part of universal oneness?
Stage 8 involves growing acceptance and embrace of this paradox. Look for responses that indicate an ability or desire to hold both perspectives simultaneously, even if it feels challenging.
Describe how you feel the paradox of being both your uniqueness and also the sameness of infinite being.
Listen for how you feel this paradox. Do you hold these two aspects of your being as separate? If so, you would score early in Stage 8. The more you hold them together, intimately feeling the bothness, the higher your score in Stage 8.
As you've embraced your personal and your transpersonal nature, how has your view of your role in the world changed?
Look for responses that indicate an evolving sense of purpose that encompasses both personal uniqueness and universal connection. Stage 8 often involves reframing one's life purpose in light of this dual awareness.
To embrace the paradox of being unique and universalTo integrate the experience of individual self and boundless consciousnessSometimes I feel bound to my personality, sometimes I feel completely free from itAt home in oneself
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Ask at least 3 of your friends and/or family members to tell you what your 3 top limits or challenges are. As they tell you what they see, practice not deflecting. Practice being completely receptive until they are done and then thank them. Just notice and feel your own reactions or responses. Be curious about where your reactions are coming from. If you are rejecting your own limits in any way, it’s important to discover how to embrace them because they are part of who you are. Embracing our limits turns out to be very liberating. It’s good to push our limits to a point, but once we know them, we can learn to understand them to best empower our gifts. Constantly trying to fix or transcend your limits may sound like a great ideal, but sooner or later you may discover that learning to cooperate with them makes you more effective.
  2. Ask the same people to tell you what they see as your top 3 gifts. Again, no deflecting, just accept the feedback and thank them. Otherwise, you are stopping yourself from owning the truth of who you are, which is the opposite of self-realization and self-actualization.
  3. Journal about other limits and challenges not mentioned by your friends. Write about how nothing is wrong about any of them and why each is perfect.
  4. Throughout the day, notice shifts between feeling like a unique individual and feeling more identified with universal consciousness. Journal these experiences.
  5. Sit quietly for 15 minutes daily, holding the simultaneous awareness of being both a distinct self and infinite being. Embrace any tension or discomfort that arises.
  6. In social situations, consciously express your unique personality while maintaining awareness of your universal nature. Reflect on how this impacts your interactions.
Dual phase · stage 8 of 14 · Mind
8
Oscillating · Mind
Leaning into the discomfort of apparent opposites
Trying to hold the paradox of known and unknown
  • I find myself alternately absorbed in my mind and aware of spacious awareness.
  • I am aware of thoughts and boundless awareness at the same time.
How often do you find yourself alternating between being absorbed in thoughts and aware of awareness itself?
Such oscillations between mind and spacious awareness function to make awareness more obvious while also setting one up to hold thoughts and awareness at the same time. If a person experiences such oscillations at least once a week, score at 8.0.
How often are you aware of thoughts and boundless awareness at the same time?
This simultaneous awareness of both thought content and the spacious field in which thoughts arise is a key indicator of progression through Stage 8. As this capacity stabilizes, individuals may find themselves able to engage in complex thinking while maintaining a background sense of vast, open awareness.
How comfortable are you with uncertainty or not knowing?
Stage 8 often involves growing ease with ambiguity and mystery. If you express increasing comfort with uncertainty and open-ended questions, and holding the tension of opposites, this suggests at least Stage 8.
To what extent do you experience your thoughts as both personal and universal?
Stage 8 often involves a growing recognition of the interplay between individual and collective mind. If you express a sense of thoughts as both personal and part of a larger intelligence, this may indicate Stage 8.
To relax into the discomfort of mystery while yearning for understandingTo hold the paradox of knowable and unknowable without reactionI find myself alternately absorbed in my mind and aware of spacious awarenessSelf located in whole being
Practices · Mind
  1. Sit with eyes closed and rest as consciousness. After some time, bring your attention to your thoughts. Notice the both-ness of consciousness and thoughts. Stay with this both-ness a little longer each time until it’s clear that consciousness is always present when thoughts are present.
  2. Practice being aware of your mind’s tendency to try to figure everything out. Practice sitting in the feeling that life is a mystery. Notice that both can be happening at the same time.
  3. Allow the tension of the difference between your thoughts and beliefs, and those of others. Become at home with those differences.
  4. Practice holding two opposing ideas or perspectives in mind simultaneously, observing the tension without trying to resolve it.
  5. Experiment with alternating periods of focused thinking and open awareness throughout your day, noting the transitions.
  6. Explore journaling or speaking from a place that embraces both your personal thoughts and a sense of universal intelligence flowing through you.
Dual phase · stage 8 of 14 · Emotions
8
Oscillating · Emotions
Leaning into the discomfort of apparent opposites
Trying to hold the tension of unconditional love and personal emotions
  • I experience spacious awareness alternating with personal emotions
  • I experience spacious awareness and personal emotions simultaneously
Do you experience spacious awareness alternating with personal emotions?
The experience of boundless awareness or unconditional love alternating with personal emotions indicates Stage 8; if weekly, score at 8.3 or above.
Can you maintain a sense of spacious awareness while feeling strong emotions?
Stage 8 involves the ability to hold both emotional intensity and expanded consciousness simultaneously.
How often do you experience emotions as raw energy or sensations in your body, without attaching a story to them?
Frequent experiences of emotions as pure energy suggest Stage 8.
How comfortable are you with allowing seemingly contradictory emotions to coexist without needing to resolve them?
Stage 8 often involves embracing emotional paradoxes, like loving and hating someone at the same time. Beginning comfort with this indicates Stage 8.
To what degree do you feel that allowing your emotions awakens your consciousness more deeply?
Stage 8 involves seeing emotions as gateways to expanded awareness. Strong agreement with this idea indicates at least Stage 8.
To embrace the paradox of universal love and personal emotionsTo integrate the full spectrum of emotions with the stillness of consciousnessI experience spacious awareness alternating with personal emotionsIntimacy with life
Practices · Emotions
  1. Notice that your experience or intuition of universal love is present while your emotions go up and down. Notice that personal and universal simultaneously coexist.
  2. Practice radical self-embrace. Love yourself no matter how bad or unacceptable you think you are. Practice embracing all your aspects, both light and dark, both good and bad, pain and pleasure, infinite and finite, divine and human, by giving yourself permission to be all of who and what you are in each moment.
  3. Your presence itself brings love. Bring presence to your own emotions, and to the emotions of others. Bring presence to the feeling of paradox or conflict. Whatever your internal reactions may be, stay with what you feel. Later, you can find new ways to express what you feel, but for now, learn to be present with your emotional truth without trying to change it.
  4. Pause and observe your emotions like a movie, without judgment or interference. Notice how slowing down allows you to feel emotions more clearly.
  5. When a strong feeling arises, focus on the raw physical sensation and ignore thoughts. Feel it as an energy in your body.
  6. Throughout your day, consciously slow down when emotions surface. Acknowledge feelings fully while also noticing that you are the awareness. Feel and embrace the bothness of spacious awareness and emotional sensations together.
Dual phase · stage 8 of 14 · Body
8
Oscillating · Body
Leaning into the discomfort of apparent opposites
Trying to hold awareness of body and spaciousness simultaneously
  • I alternate between identifying with my body and identifying with spacious awareness
  • I identify with my body and unbounded spaciousness at the same time
Do you alternate between identifying with your body and infinite awareness?
As the frequency of this moves from once a week to once a day, score 8.1 - 8.5.
Do you identify with your body and unbounded spaciousness at the same time?
As the frequency of this moves from once a week to once a day, score 8.5 - 8.9.
Do you have experiences of yearning for union with God, Source, or Being?
In Stage 8, one has grown tired of the Duality perspective and yearns for unity.
To what extent do you feel your physical experiences are connected with the experiences of others and the world around you?
Experiences of profound unity and connectedness will increase as one approaches Stage 9.
How comfortable are you with the paradox of being both a limited physical creature with limitless awareness?
If you express ease with this paradox, score at 8.5 or above.
To what degree do you experience your body as a temporary expression of timeless beingness?
If you report a consistent sense of your body as a fleeting manifestation of eternal consciousness, score at 8.5 or above. A deeper integration of this perspective suggests progression towards late Stage 8 or early Stage 9.
To relax into acceptance of being both physical and non-physicalTo integrate transcendent experiences with everyday physical existenceI identify with my body and unbounded spaciousness at the same timeBody one with life
Practices · Body
  1. Feel your body and consciousness together simultaneously. Ask yourself: If I had to feel this both-ness for the rest of eternity, would that be ok? If not, why not?
  2. Journal: What are your objections to being both a physical person and limitless being?
  3. Spend 20 minutes daily in silent meditation, feeling your breath moving in and out of your belly while knowing yourself as the infinite space of awareness. Embrace the “bothness” body and consciousness together as one, even if it feels uncomfortable.
  4. Engage in conscious movement practices like Tai Chi or ecstatic dance, allowing your body to become a living expression of universal energy flow.
  5. Sit with attention to your breath. Notice how breathing connects your inside and outside in one interconnected reality. Notice there is no boundary between inside and outside.
Unified phase · stage 9 of 14 · Consciousness
9
Embodied Unity · Consciousness
Nonseparate realization brings wholeness, wellness, and presence
Consciousness is experienced as unified with personal domains
  • My consciousness and bodymind are all part of the same unified self.
  • I feel fundamentally whole and well.
How do you experience the relationship between your personal self and universal consciousness?
In Stage 9, individuals typically report a profound sense of unity between form and formless, between personal self and universal consciousness. Look for responses indicating a lived experience of non-separation, where the personal and universal are recognized as inseparable aspects of the same reality, the same self.
How do you perceive the relationship between form and emptiness?
Stage 9 involves a profound recognition of the inseparability of form and emptiness. If you express a lived understanding that all phenomena are always both form and formless, this points to Stage 9.
How has your sense of personal identity shifted since experiencing unity?
Look for responses indicating you no longer experience a fixed, separate self, but rather a fluid, interconnected presence that includes both personal and universal aspects. Stage 9 brings a sense of no difference between “inside” and “out”.
How persistent is your feeling of wholeness or fundamentally wellness?
In early Stage 9, it can still appear to come and go. In later Stage 9, it tends to be more persistent, yet can get challenged by moments of intense purifications, which portend the transformations of Stage 10.
Does any part of you still feel fundamentally separate from life?
If they say they don’t feel separate from any part of self or life, but still feel separate from others, that can happen in Stage 9; it will heal in Stage 10.
To recognize, acknowledge, and own the realization of embodied unityTo notice that one’s life patterns are based in duality, requiring realignmentMy consciousness and bodymind are all part of the same unified selfAwareness turned toward wounds
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Sit in meditation on the blissful unity of consciousness and your total humanness. Enjoy the fact that you no longer need to do anything to know this fundamental wellness of being.
  2. Outside meditation, notice that the sense of unity continues through all experience.
  3. Unity Meditation - Begin by resting as pure awareness, then gradually expand your sense of self to include everything in your experience. Notice how your consciousness and all phenomena arise as one unified field. Allow any sense of separation between "inner" and "outer" to dissolve. Rest in the direct recognition that your essential nature and the entire manifest world are non-separate expressions of one beingness.
Unified phase · stage 9 of 14 · Uniqueness
9
Embodied Unity · Uniqueness
Nonseparate realization brings wholeness, wellness, and presence
Personality is realized as a non-separate expression of being
  • I feel fundamentally at home in myself.
  • I know I’m different from others, but I don’t feel fundamentally separate from anyone.
How do you experience the relationship between your individual uniqueness and the universal nature of existence?
Look for responses that indicate a deep connection between personal identity and universal beingness. Stage 9 individuals often describe their unique qualities as natural expressions of universal energies, without paradox or contradiction.
Have you experienced a kind of "landing" into your unique self in a new way?
In this Domain, the shift to Stage 9 can feel like a landing into both unique gifts and universal being as One. Around 9.5, one feels confident in living from the new platform of unity and wholeness.
Do you see your personal quirks or limitations as serving a larger purpose?
Stage 9 awareness often includes an appreciation for how even seemingly "flawed" aspects of self contribute to the whole. Listen for examples of how the individual finds meaning in their idiosyncrasies.
How has your understanding of your role in the world shifted as you've integrated your uniqueness with a sense of universal connection?
Responses at this stage often reflect a profound sense of purpose that arises from recognizing one's unique gifts as essential expressions of the universal.
To acknowledge and own the union of unique personality and universal beingTo embody one's unique qualities as an integral part of the universal wholeI know I’m different from others, but I don’t feel fundamentally separate from anyoneHealed self-negation
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. When relating with others, speak your personal truth in the moment (with self-responsibility). Be aware of your fears of not fitting in, yet dare to have a different opinion and be your unique self anyway.
  2. Journal about your purpose in life. If you could accomplish just one thing before your life is over, what would that be?
  3. Journal about how you see working with others to accomplish your purpose.
  4. Meditate on the blissful simplicity of your realized embodied unity. Enjoy the wholeness of being your unique self and universal being at the same time.
  5. Weekly, choose an area of life where you've held back. Take bold action to express your true self, regardless of fear or potential judgment from others.
  6. Each morning, say to yourself "I fully accept and express all aspects of my unique being." Throughout the day, notice and release any resistance to this truth.
Unified phase · stage 9 of 14 · Mind
9
Embodied Unity · Mind
Nonseparate realization brings wholeness, wellness, and presence
Personal thoughts are known as aspects of being
  • Thoughts don’t distract me from experiencing my unity with life.
  • My sense of self shifted from my mind to my whole being.
Can you say that thoughts don’t distract you from experiencing your unity with life?
The realization of unity does not happen in the Mind; it’s a whole-being recognition that despite all appearances to the contrary, life is one thing and the realizer is part of that unified reality. If more than half the time thoughts don’t distract from this recognition, score at 9.5
Would you say your sense of self shifted from your mind to your whole being?
Most people have overly identified their sense of self with their mind (thoughts), so when the shift from fundamental separateness to fundamental unity occurs, it often appears to be a shift from Mind into all Domains. Score an initial shift from partial identity in any Domain into whole being identity at 9.1. When stable, score at 9.5.
Do you experience your thoughts as waves within a larger field of awareness?
In Stage 9, thoughts are consistently experienced as energies in the soup of being. If a person reports this experience as their predominant reality, score at 9.0 or higher. This perception of thoughts as waves in a vast ocean of consciousness allows for a more fluid and less attached relationship to mental activity.
How often do you find yourself using both/and thinking?
Score the newfound capacity to hold differences without imposing unnecessary polarities or tensions at 9.1, and as a near-constant state at 9.8. This ability to embrace seemingly contradictory perspectives simultaneously reflects a significant shift in cognitive flexibility and a deepening understanding of the interconnected nature of reality.
To acknowledge and own the mind's unity with beingTo know personal thoughts as one aspect of one’s whole beingMy sense of self shifted from my mind to my whole beingFreedom from believing negative thoughts
Practices · Mind
  1. Observe your thinking… write down the thought patterns that occur most frequently. A pattern could be “I try to be more positive,” “I think about worst-case scenarios,” or “I think about what’s wrong with me”, etc. When any thoughts that fit this pattern come into your awareness, notice it’s just one of your standard patterns and notice that you are larger than that.
  2. When talking with others, notice your own reactions to their thoughts. See if you can discover what’s under your reactions. Do these thoughts bring up uncomfortable feelings? Are you ok with that?
  3. Throughout your day, practice noticing the sense of wholeness underlying thoughts.
  4. Observe contradictory thoughts or perspectives as aspects of a larger whole.
  5. Practice engaging in creative activities that allow you to express thoughts and ideas without attachment to outcomes.
Unified phase · stage 9 of 14 · Emotions
9
Embodied Unity · Emotions
Nonseparate realization brings wholeness, wellness, and presence
Feeling emotions as waves of being
  • I feel intimate with life
  • My emotions no longer take me out of experiencing my unity with life
Do you feel a sense of unity with all things even while experiencing strong emotions?
Late Stage 9 brings the capacity to maintain awareness of fundamental unity even through strong emotional experiences. If they can maintain that only for moments, score at 9.1; if they can maintain that most of the time, score at 9.9.
Would you say you feel intimate with all of life?
A yes more than half the time suggests the person may be in the process of shifting into Embodied Unity. Score at 9.0 or higher.
How often do you feel others’ emotions just by putting your attention on them?
At Stage 9, we recognize our fundamental interconnectedness. When we attune to others, we may notice corresponding emotional and physical sensations arising within ourselves. This natural empathic resonance allows us to intuitively sense others' emotional states without needing explicit communication.
How often do you experience feeling emotionally connected with others, even when their feelings differ from your own?
In Stage 9, we often sense a deep emotional connectedness with others, regardless of differing emotional states. We can intuitively understand and resonate with others' emotions while maintaining our own. This ability allows for richer emotional interactions and deeper empathy without losing our emotional truth.
To acknowledge and own the unity of emotions with beingTo experience emotions as waves of universal beingI feel intimate with lifeHealed emotional wounds
Practices · Emotions
  1. What is your least favorite emotion? Practice feeling that emotion in yourself while embracing it with love.
  2. What emotion is most challenging for you to be with in others? Practice being present with others when they express that feeling. Watch your old patterns that used to cause you to react in such situations. Practice developing patience and compassion with yourself and others around emotions.
  3. See if you can notice that even though you can feel others as deeply connected, you still have resistance to certain emotional states. Note which emotions are challenging.
  4. When you notice a strong emotion arising in yourself or others, practice embracing it fully without resistance.
  5. Throughout your day, practice seeing your emotions and those of others as waves in the same ocean of being. Notice how this awareness affects your interactions and sense of separation.
Unified phase · stage 9 of 14 · Body
9
Embodied Unity · Body
Nonseparate realization brings wholeness, wellness, and presence
Realizing the unity of body and being
  • I experience my body as one with life
  • I experience the same life animating all bodies and creatures
How often do you experience your body as one with life?
This major life transition is often accompanied with a feeling of falling into the body and realizing one was previously living in fixated identification with mind, emotions, personality, and/or consciousness. The descent into the body is an important hallmark of Stage 9. If that unity feels somewhat unstable, score at 9.1; if very stable, score 9.8.
Do you experience the same life or being animating all things and creatures?
If you consistently experience this, score at 9.5 or above.
Has your relationship with your body fundamentally shifted from it being something you have to something you are?
In Stage 9, there's typically a profound shift from experiencing the body as an object to recognizing it (and all physical expressions) as an inseparable aspect of self. This realization often feels like a homecoming.
Do you feel a seamless continuity between your body and the world around you?
Stage 9 is characterized by a lived experience of non-separation between the body and the environment. Look for responses indicating a felt sense of unity and interconnectedness.
How has your experience of physical limitations or ailments changed?
In Stage 9, physical challenges and discomforts are embraced within a larger context of wholeness. While discomfort may still be present, it's typically held within a more expansive, accepting awareness. Here, there is a willingness to feel pain and limits.
To realize the unity of body and beingTo acknowledge and own the body's inseparability from consciousnessI experience my body as one with lifeHealed body conditioning
Practices · Body
  1. Make your body the object of your loving attention for a while. When you don’t like how your body feels, devote yourself to staying deeply present with the feelings, embracing each one as yourself.
  2. Notice your reactions to being physically present with others. Explore your reactions and see if you can discover what is beneath each one. What do you notice you don’t want to feel when you’re with others? How much does your own childhood conditioning play out in physical interactions?
  3. During daily activities, practice maintaining awareness of your body as a seamless expression of universal being.
  4. Spend time each day feeling the unified wholeness and aliveness that permeates and connects your body with all things and beings.
Unified phase · stage 10 of 14 · Consciousness
10
Transforming · Consciousness
Core duality-based conditioning surfaces for healing
Awareness illuminates and transforms deep wounds and conditioning
  • My awareness keeps lighting up unconscious or outdated patterns for me to heal.
  • I feel I’ve healed at least 80% of my issues from the past.
How do you experience the process of transforming deep-seated conditioning?
In Stage 10, individuals typically report an intensified awareness of early life conditioning and a willingness to face it directly. Look for responses indicating an active engagement with previously unconscious patterns and a commitment to transforming them by bringing awareness directly into Body and Emotions.
To what extent do you resist fully experiencing life?
Stage 10 is characterized by a deepening ability to recognize and release subtle forms of avoidance. If you describe an increasing capacity to stay present with all experiences, including uncomfortable ones, this suggests late Stage 10.
How often do you get triggered by interactions with others?
Stage 10 brings a need to heal our unresolved emotions by feeling them and expressing them responsibly in relationships with helpers, friends, and family. People in late Stage 10 lean into the relationship challenges consciously and willingly.
Do you feel you’ve healed most of your tendency to avoid relationship issues?
Stage 10 is a time to heal relationship issues. To whatever extent we are conditioned to pull back from allowing ourselves to feel and express our true feelings, healing is hindered. In Stage 10, there is a growing need to face inner wounds with self-love. If you say yes to this question, score at Stage 10.5 or above.
To heal the Phase 1 conditioning that held Consciousness as separateTo release the habit of controlling awareness to avoid unhealed issuesMy awareness keeps lighting up unconscious or outdated patterns for me to healUndisturbed presence in all situations
Practices · Consciousness
  1. As you go about your day, release any remaining control over where your attention wants to go. You may notice that you’ve been avoiding certain issues or discomforts. Practice not avoiding those things. Let your consciousness go where it naturally wants to go and see what it uncovers.
  2. When you find yourself in the midst of a challenging confrontation with your old patterns, use your stable realization of non-dual consciousness as an anchor. You might want to sit in meditation or simply turn attention to the obviousness of being.
  3. As you go about your day, practice releasing control over where you put your attention. If your awareness wants to move toward feelings you usually avoid, allow that. Practice noticing that feeling unhealed wounds actually brings you healing.
  4. When you feel yourself in a challenging confrontation with your old patterns, use your unified awareness as an anchor and a support. Keep noticing that you’re fundamentally well and whole, even when feeling deep pains and wounds.
Unified phase · stage 10 of 14 · Uniqueness
10
Transforming · Uniqueness
Core duality-based conditioning surfaces for healing
Fundamental healing of self-negation
  • I own my strengths and limits both privately and publicly.
  • I feel at least 75% healed of my unresolved wounds and conditioning.
How are you experiencing the healing of deep-rooted self-negation patterns?
Look for responses that indicate an active, sometimes intense process of confronting (or being confronted with) long-held beliefs and behavior patterns that have limited one’s unique self-expression.
How has your understanding of your life purpose, function, or mission evolved as you've moved through this transformative process?
This stage often involves a profound recalibration of one's sense of purpose. Look for responses that indicate a shift from ego-driven goals to a more holistic, interconnected vision of one's role in the world.
How much do you own your strengths and limits, both privately and publicly?
If a person is truly ok with being imperfect, it suggests they have dropped their idealism about how they should show up and have accepted their humanity enough to truly embrace their own limits. Such a person has far fewer inappropriate defenses because they no longer need to defend a self-image that clearly wasn't real in the first place. An "Often" here would score 10.5, a "Frequently" would score 10.8.
Do you feel you've healed at least 80% of your self-expression wounds?
This happens in people who have clearly transitioned to Stage 9 and then have done a lot of healing, especially in vulnerable relationships with others. Score a yes at 10.8.
To integrate all previously rejected or suppressed aspects of one’s uniquenessTo empower oneself to embody and actualize one’s unique gifts in the worldI own my strengths and limits both privately and publiclyClear purpose lived freely
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Journal about the ways you have negated yourself your whole life. Take note of how you’ve done this in all Domains, even if only in subtle ways. When those old habits arise, love them, and make a new choice to love yourself.
  2. What relationships in your life need healing? Think about family, friends, and colleagues with whom you may have left things badly. These people are not separate from you; their pain in relation to you is part of your pain in relation to them. Find ways to bring healing to these relationships, starting with listening to their side and fully feeling their reality without deflecting or defending. Your presence and willingness to empathize will bring forms of healing and wellness that can’t happen if you try to do all your healing work alone, subjectively.
  3. Write about the biggest remaining fear you have about bringing your unique gifts into the world.
  4. Weekly, choose a situation to fully embody your authentic self, especially where you've previously held back. Reflect on the experience and any resistance.
Unified phase · stage 10 of 14 · Mind
10
Transforming · Mind
Core duality-based conditioning surfaces for healing
Releasing self-deceiving beliefs
  • I no longer automatically believe negative thoughts about myself.
  • I no longer automatically believe negative thoughts about others.
How often do you find yourself dismantling long-held beliefs or thought patterns?
Stage 10 involves a deep examination of all beliefs. If you report frequently reassessing your beliefs and mental frameworks, score at 10.0 or higher.
To what extent do you automatically believe negative thoughts about yourself?
To whatever degree this pattern has been released, score at 10.0 or above. This stage often comes with an increased ability to observe negative thoughts without identifying with them, recognizing them as transient mental events rather than truths.
To what extent do you automatically believe negative thoughts about others?
To whatever degree this pattern has been released, score at 10.0 or above. This shift often coincides with a deepening sense of compassion and understanding, recognizing that others, like ourselves, are shaped by complex experiences and circumstances beyond their control.
How comfortable are you with letting go of beliefs that no longer serve you, even if they've been central to your identity?
Stage 10 requires a willingness to release outdated beliefs. If you express increasing ease with this process of letting go, even when challenging, score at 10.5.
To what extent do you notice and question assumptions underlying your thoughts and beliefs even while thinking them?
Stage 10 involves increased metacognition and awareness of cognitive biases. If you regularly examine the foundations of your thinking, score at 10.5 or higher.
To update the mind's ways of functioning from duality to unityTo release self-limiting beliefs for goodI no longer automatically believe negative thoughts about myselfThinking free of social norms
Practices · Mind
  1. Question your core beliefs and assumptions; how many of them were formed when you were young? Do they all align with your current experience and understanding?
  2. Observe your thoughts about yourself and others. Do you subconsciously put yourself down? Do you subconsciously put others down? What do you get from those old patterns of thinking?
  3. Regularly journal about beliefs you're questioning or letting go of, exploring the emotions and insights that are under them.
  4. Practice "belief suspension" - temporarily setting aside a strongly held belief and exploring how that changes your perspective.
  5. Journal on "What beliefs am I holding that limit my embodiment of unity?"
Unified phase · stage 10 of 14 · Emotions
10
Transforming · Emotions
Core duality-based conditioning surfaces for healing
Unified awareness enables core healing of emotional wounds and conditioning
  • My awareness is drawn to my unhealed emotions
  • I am openly vulnerable in relationships
How often is your awareness drawn to unhealed emotions?
In Stage 10, awareness is like a flashlight, peering into the cave of one's emotional underworld, lighting up old issues that have been waiting for the deep presence of unity to complete the healing. If you consistently cooperate with such healing, including vulnerably working with relationship issues, score at 10.5 or higher.
To what extent can you maintain a sense of wholeness while experiencing intense or conflicting emotions?
In Stage 10, we develop the capacity to hold our emotional experiences within a larger context of unity. If they can do this most of the time, even with very intense emotions, score at 10.7 or higher.
How vulnerable and open are you in your close relationships?
If they can say yes more than half the time, it indicates they’ve done a lot of healing, which leaves the person available to be vulnerable because they realize they no longer need to defend themselves from any feeling. Score at 10.8 or above.
To what degree do you experience your emotions as non-separate from the emotions of others and the world around you?
Late Stage 10 brings a profound sense of emotional interconnectedness. If they consistently experience this, score at 10.7 or higher.
To update emotional functioning from duality to unityTo fully integrate and heal core emotional wounds and conditioningMy awareness is drawn to my unhealed emotionsUnconditional self-love
Practices · Emotions
  1. Journal about what stops you from expressing the depth of your emotions. How did that pattern start? How has withholding your feelings served you in the past, and what ways is it no longer helping you?
  2. Is shame an issue for you? See if you can get to the bottom of it by exploring why you believe there’s something wrong with you. If you look for it, you’ll see that you’ve always been a doing your best, and that you’re only human, just like everyone else.
  3. What emotions are hard for you to experience in yourself? What emotions are hard for you to witness in others? Practice feeling those difficult emotions. This will help you end the habit of running from what you feel.
  4. Share your explorations around this with a close ally and ask for their help to express your true feelings when they sense you’re holding back. This can’t be done safely in all relationships, so do this with those you feel safe with.
  5. Engage in "emotional archaeology" by gently exploring layers of past experiences, allowing suppressed emotions to surface and be integrated with compassion.
  6. Regularly sit in silent witnessing of your emotional landscape, observing how emotions arise, transform, and dissolve within the vast field of unified awareness. Notice any remaining resistance or attachment to particular emotional states.
Unified phase · stage 10 of 14 · Body
10
Transforming · Body
Core duality-based conditioning surfaces for healing
Healing and transforming deep physical conditioning
  • My body feels at least 80% healed of past wounds and conditioning
  • My relationship behaviors are mostly free of past conditioning
Can you say your body feels at least 80% healed of past wounds and conditioning?
Ask them about their healing process. Instant healings are not the same as embodied transformations that take organic time and willing cooperation through freeling and embracing previously banished or chronically ignored aspects of your physical self.
Can you say your behaviors in intimate relationships are free of past conditioning?
Don’t accept your assertions as fact. Ask if you have done deep conscious work to take responsibility for your own feelings and learned to care for your impact on others, especially those close to you. The more vulnerable you have learned to be, the more willing you are to admit your limits, the higher the score in Stage 10.
How comfortable are you with allowing intense physical sensations to arise?
If you express ease with this process, score at 10.5 or above.
Do you find that your physical presence can catalyze healing in others?
If you notice this with some regularity, score at 10.5 or above.
How often do you feel deep physical attunement with your significant other?
Explore your presence in intimate relationships. Look for awareness of self and partner, energetic exchange, and presence during intense feelings. Score 10.8+ for frequent deep attunement including during challenges.
To heal and transform deep physical conditioningTo embody unity consciousness through physical form and behaviorMy body feels at least 80% healed of past wounds and conditioningMoving from body’s wisdom
Practices · Body
  1. Ask your body what it needs to become free of the past. Then do what you can to fulfill those needs.
  2. Practice moving from your body; let your body respond to life as it wants to. Dare to release your mind from the position of ultimate decider.
  3. Find activities that help create space in the body: yoga, breathing techniques, dance, or other forms of exercise like running, swimming, or lifting weights. Bring breath to areas of the body to help release tension or dense areas.
  4. Meditate on your body, focusing on areas of physical tension or discomfort. Allow these sensations to be fully felt, observing any emotional or mental patterns that arise.
  5. Engage in conscious movement practices. Allow your body to move in ways that feel healing and transformative.
  6. Throughout your day, pause regularly to check in with your body. Notice any areas of tension or discomfort and consciously breathe into these areas, allowing them to soften and release. Observe how this practice affects your overall state of being.
Unified phase · stage 11 of 14 · Consciousness
11
Individuating · Consciousness
Fundamentally untangled and liberated into life
Deeply embodied presence in most situations
  • Embodied awareness is present and undisturbed no matter what is happening.
  • I feel liberated to live my unique truth.
How consistently do you choose to be present with whatever is happening?
People can be about 80% present when they’ve healed about 80% of their past material. Otherwise, they will often find their attention drawn to unresolved issues through present experiences. If you are 50% consistently present, score at 11.5.
How aware are you of your unique function in the world?
In Stage 11, individuals typically report a growing awareness of and concern about how they will give service. They start to get that if they don’t bring forth their own gifts, it will deprive others of their love and prevent their own thriving. In late Stage 11, there's often a clear sense of one's unique role in the larger tapestry of life. Look for responses indicating that your actions and choices are consistently guided by a deep, intuitive understanding of your purpose.
To what extent do you find yourself spontaneously expressing your authentic self in various life situations?
Stage 11 is characterized by a natural and effortless expression of one's true nature. If you describe frequent moments of feeling fully aligned with your essence across different contexts, this suggests Stage 11.
How has your relationship with creativity and manifestation evolved?
Stage 11 often brings a heightened ability to bring ideas and inspirations into form. If you describe an increased flow of creative energy and an ability to manifest with greater ease and alignment even in difficulties, this points to Stage 11.
To turn attention outward and serve the world from unified consciousnessTo accept that embodying your gifts will sometimes bring pain to self and othersEmbodied awareness is present and undisturbed no matter what is happeningPresence in everything
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Journal: What experiences are still hard for me to stay present with?
  2. During your day, practice staying present with experiences you find difficult.
  3. Journal on three topics: ○ What is my unique function in the world? ○ What are my fears of fully living my unique function with passion? ○ How is not fully living my function hindering my growth and wellness?
Unified phase · stage 11 of 14 · Uniqueness
11
Individuating · Uniqueness
Fundamentally untangled and liberated into life
Liberated to live unique truth
  • I feel free to live my authentic self.
  • I’m clear about my life purpose.
  • I no longer negate myself for being different.
How healed is your tendency to withhold your unique truth?
If they say 80%, score at 11.8. This high score indicates significant progress in overcoming self-censorship and consistently expressing one's authentic self across various situations.
How clear are you about what your unique gifts and contributions are?
Ask what makes you clear or unclear about your gifts. Having clarity about one's gifts indicates strong individuation. Once clear, you'll feel compelled to embody your purpose. If still clarifying one’s function, score 11.2; if function is clear, score at 11.8.
To what extent do you find yourself spontaneously expressing your authentic self in various life situations?
Stage 11 is characterized by spontaneous authenticity due to a greatly reduced defense system. Listen for authentic self-expression in all contexts.
How has your relationship with your own limitations shifted at this stage?
Look for responses indicating a deep acceptance and even appreciation for one's full spectrum of gifts and limits as part of their unique expression.
How free do you feel to live your authentic self?
This is expressed in the model as “Fundamentally untangled and liberated into life.” If this is true much of the time, including personal, work, and relationship settings, score at 11.0. If it’s true all the time, score at 11.8 or higher.
To clarify one’s unique purpose or functionTo begin serving others and the world through one's authentic individualityI feel free to live my authentic selfNothing stopping the gifts
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Journal: What am I afraid might happen if I fully express my unique purpose and gifts?
  2. Every day, remind yourself why you are here, and spend as much time as you can working to fulfill your own unique calling, even if it’s only ten minutes.
  3. Every day, take at least one action that aligns with your unique gifts and life purpose. Reflect on how this expression feels effortless and authentic.
  4. Weekly, choose a situation to fully embody your truth, especially in areas where you've previously held back. Notice any remaining resistance and breathe through it.
  5. Journal about how your individual human instrument plays its part in the symphony of universal life.
Unified phase · stage 11 of 14 · Mind
11
Individuating · Mind
Fundamentally untangled and liberated into life
Liberated from internal chatter to think clearly and authentically
  • My mind is free to think differently from others and from social norms. .
  • While conversing, I’m aware of my own and others’ beliefs and mental patterns.
How often do you find yourself thinking in ways that feel uniquely your own, rather than conforming to norms or expectations?
Stage 11 involves a deep sense of individuation in thought. If you consistently report thinking in ways that feel authentic and original to you, score at 11 or higher.
To what extent do you feel liberated from internal mental chatter or conditioned thought patterns?
Stage 11 often involves a significant reduction in habitual mental noise. If you report a consistent sense of mental clarity and freedom from repetitive thought patterns, score in Stage 11 or higher.
How much are you aware of your own and others’ beliefs while conversing?
At Stage 11, we discover the ability to see through the mental constructs of self and others in the moment. If they say “often”, score at 11.5 or higher.
How comfortable are you with expressing unconventional or innovative ideas, even if they challenge established norms?
Stage 11 requires a willingness to think and express oneself authentically. If you are able to share your unique perspectives despite feeling fear, score at 11.5. This comfort with expressing unconventional ideas often comes with a growing sense of inner confidence and a recognition that one's unique viewpoint has inherent value, regardless of how it may be received by others.
To discover how to think authentically and creativelyTo express one's unique perspectives and insights despite fears of rejectionMy mind is free to think differently from others and from social normsThoughts no longer limiting speech
Practices · Mind
  1. Journal: What is unique about my particular worldview? What’s unique about my thoughts and beliefs? Are there particular thoughts or beliefs I still avoid or identify with?
  2. When your views are different from those of others, speak out when that feels authentic. It doesn’t matter if you’re “right” or have the “best” ideas; it only matters that you express your authentic opinions.
  3. Write a statement of your unique life purpose or function. Keep working on that until you feel it’s clear and authentic.
  4. Once you have that, write a paragraph about why your gifts matter.
  5. Challenge your own assumptions and beliefs, asking "Is this really true for me?"
  6. Practice expressing your authentic thoughts in public forums, noticing any hesitation or fear that arises.
Unified phase · stage 11 of 14 · Emotions
11
Individuating · Emotions
Fundamentally untangled and liberated into life
Continuous unconditional self-love
  • I experience unconditional self love
  • I’m consistently loving in relationships, even when I’m angry or annoyed
How consistently do you experience unconditional self-love?
The more often this is true, the higher the score within Stage 11. If this is the experience 95% or more of the time, score at 11.9.
How consistently are you loving in relationships, even when angry or annoyed?
The capacity to love and care for others when angry, frustrated, or annoyed is fairly rare. If yes to this and the above, score at 11.5 or more.
To what extent can you remain deeply present with others while simultaneously feeling intense relational emotions?
In Stage 11, there's an ability to be a clear vessel for collective emotional energies without personal distortion. If they can do this consistently, even with very intense collective emotions, score at 11.7 or higher.
How frequently do you notice that your emotional presence catalyzes spontaneous healing or awakening in others?
Stage 11 often involves being a transformative presence for others' emotional evolution. If this occurs regularly in various contexts, score at 11.5 or higher; if it's a constant phenomenon, consider scoring at 11.8 or higher.
To discover your unique ways of supporting emotional healing in othersTo permit yourself to be a template for others’ emotional healingI experience unconditional self loveHeart given without reservation
Practices · Emotions
  1. Journal: What still holds me back from crying? What holds me back from feeling or expressing anger? Sadness? Joy? Disappointment? Failure?
  2. Do things that express your love for others. It can be small things, like sending a note, or telling someone what they mean to you. The old habits of withholding our expressions
  3. Cultivate emotional service in daily life by remaining exquisitely sensitive to the emotional needs of others. Allow your emotional being to spontaneously respond as a healing and awakening presence, without attachment to outcomes.
  4. Do things that express your love for others. It can be small things, like sending a note, or telling someone what they mean to you. The old habits of withholding our expressions of love will change as we practice letting our love flow into the world through our thoughts, speech, and action.
Unified phase · stage 11 of 14 · Body
11
Individuating · Body
Fundamentally untangled and liberated into life
Moving from the body’s unconditioned wisdom
  • I move from a primary trust of my body’s wisdom
  • Everything I do feels aligned with my unique purpose
How often do you move from primary trust of your body’s wisdom?
At Stage 11, one discovers they can let their body lead the way most of the time. If they are trusting their body in a primary way, score at 11.5 or above..
Could you say that everything you do feels aligned with your unique purpose?
Personal power is action aligned with purpose. Score a yes at 11.5 or above.
How comfortable are you with allowing your body to express itself spontaneously?
If you express ease with spontaneous physical expression across different contexts, score at 11.5 or above. Greater comfort with authentic bodily expression suggests progression towards Stage 12.
Do you find that your physical presence naturally inspires people around you?
If you notice this phenomenon happening without your own conscious intent, score at 11.5 or above. More frequent or pronounced experiences of this influence indicates higher scores within Stage 11.
To what degree do you experience your body as a unique instrument for manifesting universal love in the physical world?
if you report a consistent sense of your body as a specialized tool for bringing higher awareness into form, score at 11.5 or above. A deeper integration of this perspective becomes spontaneous service in Stage 12.
To discover how to move and behave in alignment with selfTo embody one's unique essence through physical expressionI move from a primary trust of my body’s wisdomFearless authentic action
Practices · Body
  1. Journal: What prevents me from following my body’s spontaneous prompts?
  2. Practice allowing your body to choose what to do next. Go for a walk, ignore your mind for a little while, and follow what your body prefers. You may be surprised at the wisdom of the body’s impulses at this stage.
  3. Begin to identify your own intuitive physical healing forms. Find what forms of dance, massage, or physical movement are uniquely nourishing for you.
  4. Practice "embodied listening" in conversations. Tune into subtle physical sensations and impulses that arise in response to others.
  5. Throughout your day, pause to sense your body's connection to the earth and space around you. Feel your physical form as a conduit for universal energy.
Unified phase · stage 12 of 14 · Consciousness
12
Living Potential · Consciousness
Serving from alignment of purpose and power
Serving from fully-engaged presence
  • I spend most of my time using my gifts to serve others.
  • My unified sense of self has moved into the background
To what extent do you find yourself spontaneously serving others without attachment to outcomes?
Stage 12 is characterized by a natural and effortless expression of service. If you describe frequent moments of feeling aligned with your purpose while remaining unattached to results, this suggests Stage 12.
How much does fear stop you from doing what you know you must?
In Stage 12, one is mostly embracing fear and it’s not stopping them from playing their part in the dance. There's often a profound release of the need to edit oneself or control one’s experiences. Look for responses indicating that your actions flow from an increasing trust and surrender, even in challenging situations.
How often do you feel limited to living a separate sense of self?
If you describe a lived experience of your separate sense of self fading into the background, this points to late Stage 12.
How much of your time do you spend giving your unique gifts to serve others?
At Stage 12, our attention is primarily on giving, and we no longer need or care about our old sense of self, so it begins to evaporate. “Self” was just a control impulse.
How often do you experience a sense of flow in your daily life and activities?
In Stage 12, individuals report a growing sense of ease and flow in their experiences. Look for descriptions of feeling carried by life, with less struggle and more natural unfolding of events and actions.
To embody one's function while embracing fearTo serve self and others with fully engaged presenceTo release control, trust life completely, and surrender to the flow of existenceMy unified sense of self has moved into the backgroundRelease from self-referencing
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Practice staying deeply present with yourself when you feel pressured or uncomfortable.
  2. Practice being deeply present with someone who is experiencing pain or discomfort.
  3. Practice stopping the habit of self-reflecting, of thinking about yourself and checking on yourself. You’ll find yourself able to let that go as your trust in being takes over.
  4. Journal: What is the last piece of control I’m holding onto, and why? What is my fear of allowing the universe to direct my life?
Unified phase · stage 12 of 14 · Uniqueness
12
Living Potential · Uniqueness
Serving from alignment of purpose and power
Serving by living deepest purpose
  • Nothing stops me from giving my unique gifts
  • I’m living my deepest purpose.
In what ways have you found yourself compelled to express your unique truth, even in the face of potential consequences?
Stage 12 is characterized by an unwavering commitment to living one's deepest purpose. Listen for examples of courageous self-expression despite deep challenges.
How has your understanding of service evolved as you've deepened into this stage of development?
Responses should reflect a shift from ego-driven notions of helping to a more organic, essential form of service that arises naturally from one's being.
Can you describe experiences where you've felt your unique gifts serving a larger purpose in unexpected or synchronistic ways?
Look for descriptions of effortless alignment between individual expression and collective needs, often manifesting in seemingly synchronous or meaningful ways.
In what ways do you find yourself naturally inspiring or catalyzing growth in others through your authentic self-expression?
Listen for examples of how the individual's commitment to living their truth creates a field of transformation that naturally uplifts those around them.
Could you say that nothing stops you from giving your unique gifts?
For this to be true, one must be living in deep faith that, despite fears, being themselves is the only way to deeply give one's gifts. If yes, score 12.5 or higher.
To fully embody one's deepest gifts and unique purpose despite fearsTo manifest one's full potential in service of collective evolutionNothing stops me from giving my unique giftsPersonality without a self
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Journal: Do I have any remaining resistance to doing what I’m here to do or be?
  2. Take action; do something that expresses your purpose whether you are being paid to or not.
  3. Journal about why you hold onto the last fragments of control patterns.
  4. Reflect on your feelings about surrendering any remaining stance of resistance.
  5. Consciously embody your authentic self in all interactions. Observe how your unwavering commitment to living your truth inspires and catalyzes growth in others.
Unified phase · stage 12 of 14 · Mind
12
Living Potential · Mind
Serving from alignment of purpose and power
Serving life through potent clarity
  • My thoughts no longer hold me back from fully speaking and living my truth.
  • Others’ thoughts and beliefs no longer stop me from expressing who I am.
How often do your own or others’ fearful thoughts hold you back from speaking or living your truth?
It’s one thing to see our mental patterns and become free of them; it’s another thing to actually speak and live our truth in the midst of fearful thoughts and feelings. To whatever degree your actions are aligned with your beliefs, score at 12 or above.
How often do you find yourself expressing ideas or insights that feel deeply authentic, even if they challenge social norms or personal comfort zones?
Stage 12 involves a commitment to speaking one's truth regardless of potential consequences. If you consistently report sharing profound insights or unconventional ideas despite fears, score at 12 or above.
To what extent do you feel your thinking serves a larger purpose in the world?
In Stage 12, there's often a sense that one's thoughts and expressions are in service to something greater than personal gain. If you routinely experience your thinking as part of a larger evolutionary process, score at 12.8.
To what extent do you experience your thoughts as both uniquely personal and universally relevant?
Stage 12 often involves a recognition of one's thoughts as both individual expressions and part of a larger collective wisdom. If you consistently experience this, score at 12.5 or above.
To think and express authentically despite fears of consequencesTo serve life through intellectual insightMy thoughts no longer hold me back from fully speaking and living my truthThoughts without a self
Practices · Mind
  1. Write or create something that expresses your unique beliefs and post it somewhere on the internet where others can see it and respond.
  2. Convince at least one other person to support your unique beliefs in a tangible way.
  3. Journal about ideas or insights that feel deeply authentic but challenging to express. Explore the fears or hesitations that arise.
  4. Practice speaking your truth in various contexts, starting with safer environments and gradually expanding to more challenging situations.
  5. Cultivate relationships and communities that support and encourage your unique expression of authentic, transformative ideas.
Unified phase · stage 12 of 14 · Emotions
12
Living Potential · Emotions
Serving from alignment of purpose and power
Serving from unconditional love
  • I give my heart without reservation to the work I feel called to do
  • My compassion for others is not diminished when others become defensive
Do you show your true feelings to others you care about without reservation?
At Stage 12, there is high awareness that we are here to give and serve. It’s not so much about self here; we realize we’re here for others. Score a yes at 12.0 or higher.
Do you allow your emotions to arise and express without internal resistance?
In Stage 12, you are living on the verge of complete surrender into emotions without the desire to change, attenuate, modify, or even transmute them. If you report feeling close to letting go of the last of these tendencies, score at 12.5 or above.
How often do you work with the emotional currents of pairs or groups of people?
Stage 12 involves a natural alignment with relational and collective emotional processes. If this is a frequent experience, score at 12.6 or higher.
To what degree do you experience your emotions as deeply connected with others?
Late Stage 12 brings a profound sense of emotions as quantum phenomena affecting the fabric of reality itself. If they consistently experience this, score at 12.7 or higher.
Does your emotional presence catalyze emotional growth for others?
Stage 12 often involves being a transformative presence for others' and collective evolution. If this occurs regularly in various contexts, score at 12.5 or higher.
To emote authentically despite fears of consequencesTo embody the full spectrum of emotions as an evolutionary template for othersI give my heart without reservation to the work I feel called to doSelfless love
Practices · Emotions
  1. Empower someone who looks up to you. Help them feel safe and encourage them to express their true feelings no matter what the consequences may be for you.
  2. Is there something you don’t feel grateful for? Journal about why.
  3. Journal about how your love and your gifts combine to create your work in the world. How much of your true feelings are you giving to others through your work or career? What, if anything, are you holding back, and why?
  4. Forgive others for any pain they have caused you. Recognize that being is the cause of all pain and happiness, all of which has helped us become who and what we are designed to be. Forgive the universe for causing you pain through others.
  5. Journal about how ready you feel to completely surrender control over your emotions. What fears remain? Why do you still bow to those fears?
Unified phase · stage 12 of 14 · Body
12
Living Potential · Body
Serving from alignment of purpose and power
Serving from deeply embodied Presence
  • I am extremely present in all actions I engage with
  • I do what is right for me despite fears of consequences
Can you say you're deeply aware of your body's sensations in everything you do?
At Stage 12, physical awareness becomes a default state. Look for responses indicating continuous effortless awareness of physical sensations in the midst of all tasks. If consistently experienced with rare lapses, score at 12.5 or above.
Would you say you do what is right for you despite fears of consequences?
This isn’t about overriding one’s own fears - it’s about taking action despite and in the midst of such fears. If yes, score at 12.5 or above.
How does your body feel when you're fully aligned with your purpose?
Individuals in Stage 12 typically report feeling energy, vitality, flow, and a sense of the body as a conduit of service for a larger purpose.
To what extent do you feel your body moving spontaneously in alignment with a greater intelligence?
Stage 12 people speak of the body acting from its own wisdom, with no desire for conscious control. The more one trusts their body, the higher the score in Stage 12.
How do you experience the connection between your physical form and the larger field of existence?
Look for descriptions of the body feeling permeable, interconnected with all of life, or functioning as a spontaneous expression of universal being.
To act from authenticity despite fears of consequencesTo release all resistance to following the body’s wisdomI do what is right for me despite fears of consequencesBody without a self
Practices · Body
  1. Find something your body has always wanted to do and do it.
  2. Volunteer to do something tangible for others that represents who you are.
  3. When your body says yes, take physical actions that align with your deepest values and purpose, and don’t let your or anyone else’s fears stop you. Discover that you do not have to fear the sensation of fear; you can just feel it and allow it.
  4. Attune to your body's wisdom and needs while engaging with others, allowing your grounded awareness to naturally inform and enhance your compassionate service.
  5. Embrace discomfort in the service of your purpose. Without persisting in the face of obstacles, nothing of value is created. You must be willing to embrace the difficulty of bringing your gifts to the planet, knowing that doing so is your fulfillment.
Singular phase · stage 13 of 14 · Consciousness
13
Singular Realization · Consciousness
Dissolution of subject/object perspective
Awareness released from self-referencing
  • My sense of self disappeared.
  • I’ve become used to functioning without a sense of self.
How do you experience the relationship between your agency and universal flow?
In Stage 13, individuals typically report a radical shift in the sense of personal agency. Look for responses indicating a lived experience of life simply happening, without a separate "I" making decisions or taking action.
Do you find yourself spontaneously responding to life without premeditation?
Stage 13 is characterized by a natural and effortless flow of action without unnecessary thinking. If you describe frequent moments of appropriate action arising without needless thought or planning, this suggests Stage 13.
How do you experience the relationship between consciousness and the world?
Stage 13 brings the obviousness that Consciousness and form are the very same thing. Those in Stage 13 may have a hard time finding words for the reality that remains when the separate self has evaporated from the center of one’s being.
To what extent do you experience life as simply happening, without a "you" that it's happening to?
In Stage 13, individuals typically report a complete absence of a separate experiencer. Look for descriptions of reality unfolding spontaneously, without any sense of a distinct self observing or participating in events.
Would you say that your previously awakened sense of self has disappeared?
If this is true most of the time, the person has crossed into Stage 13. If the person has recently come to this stage and is still feeling somewhat astonished or disoriented by the lack of any previous sense of self, they would score at 13.0. Score up to 13.9 as they increasingly accept this new reality and release all desire to hold onto any state, any experience, any achievement, any outcome, any feeling, or any sense of self.
To experience life without resistance, removing the illusion of subject-object dualityTo recognize living in Singularity while remaining fully engaged and individuatedMy sense of self disappearedFlow
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Free from desire to practice
Singular phase · stage 13 of 14 · Uniqueness
13
Singular Realization · Uniqueness
Dissolution of subject/object perspective
Personality expresses without attachment to sense of self
  • My personality no longer creates a sense of separate self.
  • My personality is part of the dance of life.
How do you experience your unique personality expressing itself without a sense of personal doership?
Look for responses indicating a profound letting go of all separate self constructs, while still allowing natural uniqueness to flow.
In what ways does your uniqueness serve as a vehicle for universal expression?
Stage 13 often involves experiencing one's individuality as an integral part of the cosmic dance. Listen for descriptions of feeling like a unique instrument through which life plays.
How has your relationship to personal identity shifted at this stage of development?
Responses should reflect a dissolution of attachment to a fixed sense of self, while still honoring the flavors of individual expression.
Can you describe how you navigate daily life and interactions without a solid sense of separate selfhood?
Look for examples of effortless functioning and relating that arise from a place of non-dual awareness.
How do you perceive the interplay between individual uniqueness and universal oneness in your moment-to-moment experience?
Stage 13 individuals often describe a seamless integration where uniqueness and unity are not experienced as separate or conflicting.
Can you say that you no longer create a separate sense of self when expressing your uniqueness?
At Stage 13, we lose all desire for creating any sense of self, so it just evaporates. The expression of uniqueness flows naturally without attachment to a personal identity. There's a profound recognition that uniqueness is simply how the universe expresses itself through this particular form, without the need for a separate "me" to claim or manage it. Score a yes here at 13.5.
To release all desire for a separate sense of self associated with uniquenessTo embody personal uniqueness with no inner resistance to feelings or outcomesMy personality no longer creates a sense of separate selfFlow
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Free of desire to practice
  2. Free of desire to practice
Singular phase · stage 13 of 14 · Mind
13
Singular Realization · Mind
Dissolution of subject/object perspective
Thoughts happen without attachment to sense of self
  • My thoughts are not associated with a sense of self.
  • I experience peace of mind.
Do you find your thoughts are no longer associated with a sense of self?
The transition into the loss of all previous senses of self can be gradual for some and extremely disorienting for others. If the narrative self has disappeared or if thoughts no longer engage one in a sense of self, score at 13 or higher.
To what extent do you experience thoughts happening without a sense of personal authorship?
Stage 13 involves a profound shift where thoughts are experienced as simply arising, without a sense of "me" thinking them. If you consistently report this experience, score at 13.0.
How often do you find yourself free from any concern about whether thoughts are "yours" or part of a universal intelligence?
In Stage 13, there's no longer any distinction between personal and universal thoughts. If you report this seamless experience of thinking, score at 13 or more.
To what extent do you experience thoughts as waves of intelligence moving through you without resistance?
Stage 13 often involves a sense of thoughts flowing effortlessly, without the friction of personal identification. If you consistently describe this experience, score at 13.5.
How comfortable are you with allowing all types of thoughts to arise and pass without judgment or attachment?
Stage 13 requires a profound non-attachment to all thought content. If you demonstrate complete ease with the full spectrum of thoughts, score at 13.8.
To what extent do you experience thinking as part of how the universe lives through you, rather than a personal process?
In Stage 13, thinking is experienced as an impersonal cosmic function. If you consistently report this perspective, this strongly indicates Stage 13 or above.
To allow thoughts to flow as universal intelligence, without self-reflectionTo live the singularity of individual cognition and universal intelligenceMy thoughts are not associated with a sense of selfFlowing intelligence
Practices · Mind
  1. Free from desire to practice
Singular phase · stage 13 of 14 · Emotions
13
Singular Realization · Emotions
Dissolution of subject/object perspective
Emotions flowing without attention to self
  • My love is selfless
  • My emotions do not create a separate sense of self
Is it true for you that feeling emotions no longer create a separate sense of self?
Most people who say yes to this have experienced a distinct shift into a “no-self” condition. It’s not that there’s nothing left of the person, only that they no longer have a need for a sense of self that separates them from anyone or anything else. If emotions no longer trigger a sense of separate self, score at 13.5 or above.
To what extent do you find yourself effortlessly allowing all emotions to arise and pass without any attempt to change or control them?
Stage 13 involves a profound surrender of all desire to manage emotional experiences. If they consistently allow all emotions without resistance, score at 13.8 or higher.
How often would you say your love is selfless?
Chat with them about this and make sure this isn’t just an idea or an ideal. If they experience a genuine lack of self-reflection or self-involvement in their love and service of others, score at 13.5 or above.
How frequently do you notice that your emotional experiences no longer create any sense of personal story or narrative?
In Stage 13, emotions occur without generating a personal narrative or story. If this is their constant reality, consider scoring at 13.8 or higher.
To what extent do you experience a constant undercurrent of love, gratitude, service, or appreciation, regardless of the specific emotions arising?
In Stage 13, there's often an unshakeable gratitude and awe at the miracle of people, life, and existence, even amidst challenging emotions. If this is their consistent experience, score at 13.7 or higher.
To experience emotions without subject/object duality or paradoxTo love others for their sakeMy emotions do not create a separate sense of selfLove in flow
Practices · Emotions
  1. Free of desire to practice
Singular phase · stage 13 of 14 · Body
13
Singular Realization · Body
Dissolution of subject/object perspective
Body moves freely without attachment to sense of self
  • My body no longer makes me feel I’m separate from anything
  • My identity as a separate body went away
Would you say your body no longer makes you feel you’re separate from anything?
At this point, the body feels like another chunk in the soup of life, or a set of waves in the ocean of life. The discovery of a lack of separateness in the midst of physical needs and limits is astonishing and often disorienting. Score a yes at 13.0 or above.
Could you say your identity as a separate body evaporated?
It's not that the body went away, just the sense that the body makes one separate. If they say yes, score at 13.5 or above. This shift often brings a profound experience of the body as a seamless expression of singular being, where physical form is known as the densest end of a huge spectrum of Domains and frequencies.
In what ways has your perception of physical boundaries shifted recently?
Stage 13 often brings a radical transformation in how physical limits are experienced. Listen for descriptions of permeable or fluid boundaries, or a sense that limitations are more conceptual than actual.
How would you describe your current relationship with physical sensations, including pain or discomfort?
In this stage, there's typically a spacious, non-reactive awareness of all bodily experiences. Look for responses indicating full sensation without identification or resistance, even to exceptionally challenging experiences.
Can you share an example of how your body responds to situations without conscious intervention?
Stage 13 often manifests as spontaneous, appropriate physical responses arising from the experience of singularity. Listen for instances of intuitive action without deliberate thought or planning. These responses may include physical movements, verbal expressions, or even subtle energetic shifts that occur naturally and effortlessly in alignment with the needs of the moment.
To get used to experiencing the body without subject/object perspectiveTo allow life to flow through the body without self-generated resistanceMy identity as a separate body went awayFree flow
Practices · Body
  1. Free of desire to practice
Singular phase · stage 14 of 14 · Consciousness
14
Flow · Consciousness
Life in fluid motion
Awareness flows without resistance
  • What I used to think of as Consciousness is just an aspect of my experience.
  • My awareness flows without resistance or sense of self.
How do you experience the relationship between your existence and universal flow?
In Stage 14, the lived experience is of being inseparable from the flow of all existence. Personal body, emotions, mind, and uniqueness are expressions of universal being just as colors are expressions of white light traversing a prism.
To what extent do you find yourself effortlessly responding to life without any sense of a responder?
Stage 14 is characterized by a total absence of a separate self or agency. One’s agency is experienced as a node in the larger network of universal intelligence. One simply does what the universe is having you do. If the universe urges you to take care of yourself, or help someone else, that’s what you do.
To what extent do you experience life as a spontaneous flow of energy without a center or periphery?
In Stage 14, individuals typically report a complete absence of any fixed reference point in experience. The bodymind is still present, but it’s not a fixed thing; it’s part of the flow. Look for descriptions of reality as a boundless, centerless flow of energy, without a sense of inside or outside, subject or object.
How has your experience of choice and decision-making evolved at this stage?
In Stage 14, the traditional concept of personal choice often dissolves into a seamless flow of appropriate action arising from the whole. Look for responses indicating that decisions emerge spontaneously without a sense of effort, even if deliberation or time to feel things is called for. The individual may describe a feeling of being a conduit for universal intelligence, where choices unfold naturally as part of the cosmic flow.
I’ve become used to functioning without a sense of self.
A yes here would score 14.5, the highest score we currently understand enough to validate.
Free from desire to practiceMy awareness flows without resistance or sense of selfUnknown — ongoing evolution
Description
  • Experiencing reality as a continuous, undivided flow of being
  • Living as an effortless embodied expression of the force of evolution
Practices · Consciousness
  1. Free from desire to practice
Singular phase · stage 14 of 14 · Uniqueness
14
Flow · Uniqueness
Life in fluid motion
Free flowing self
  • My uniqueness flows with no resistance or sense of self.
  • Living my deepest purpose is a constant flow of service.
Could you say that living your deepest purpose is a constant flow of service?
At Stage 14.5, living one's deepest purpose becomes an effortless and continuous expression of service to the whole. There's no longer the illusion of separation between individual purpose and universal flow. Every action, thought, and breath naturally aligns with the greater good, without conscious effort or decision-making. The individual experiences themselves as a conduit for cosmic intelligence, allowing universal wisdom to flow through them in perfect resonance with the needs of each moment. This state transcends traditional notions of service, as there's no longer a "doer" separate from the "doing" - it's simply the universe expressing itself through this particular form in harmony with all of existence. Score a yes to this at 14.5.
How do you experience the interplay between your individual uniqueness and the flow of life itself?
Look for responses indicating a complete dissolution of boundaries between personal expression and universal flow. Stage 14 individuals often describe their uniqueness as an effortless, spontaneous expression of life's creativity.
In what ways do you find your personality expressing itself without any sense of personal doership or control?
Stage 14 is characterized by a profound letting go of the belief in a separate self directing one's actions. Listen for descriptions of effortless, spontaneous self-expression arising from a place of non-dual awareness.
How do you perceive the relationship between your unique qualities and the universal creative force of life?
At this stage, individuals often describe their uniqueness as simply the particular flavor through which life expresses itself in that moment. Look for responses that indicate no separation between individual and universal creativity.
In what ways do you find yourself naturally inspiring or catalyzing growth in others through your state of being?
Stage 14 often involves a profound impact on others simply through one's presence. Listen for examples of how the individual's state of free-flowing being naturally uplifts or transforms those around them without any conscious effort.
Free from desire to practiceMy uniqueness flows with no resistance or sense of selfUnknown — ongoing evolution
Practices · Uniqueness
  1. Free of desire to practice
  2. Free of desire to practice
Singular phase · stage 14 of 14 · Mind
14
Flow · Mind
Life in fluid motion
Intelligence free-flowing
  • Intelligence flows through me without resistance or sense of self.
  • I have little or no attachment to my own thoughts.
Would you say Intelligence flows through you without resistance or sense of self?
The distinction between Stage 13 and 14 in Mind is the difference between the realization of no self (non-duality) and the awareness that because there is no resistance, universal intelligence flows through one’s mind, becoming personal.
How often can you say you have little or no attachment to your own thoughts?
In Stage 14, there is no attachment to one’s own thoughts. Most thoughts are not for “you” anyway; they are impulses of love-intelligence serving others through “you”.
To what extent do you experience thoughts without a sense of personal authorship?
Stage 14 sees personal and impersonal as One. So the idea of personal authorship (as if that was separate from universal authorship) becomes irrelevant. If you consistently report experiencing thoughts as the flow of universal intelligence through or as the personal nature, score up to 14.5.
How often do you find yourself free from any sense of "doing" the thinking?
In Stage 14, there's no longer any experience of being a thinker. If you report this effortless, non-doing quality of thinking as your predominant reality, score at 14.3+.
To what extent do you experience thinking as part of how the universe expresses itself through you?
Stage 14 often involves a profound recognition of thinking as a cosmic function. If you consistently describe this perspective, score at 14.5.
How comfortable are you with allowing all forms of intelligence to flow through you without preference or resistance?
Individuals in Stage 14 live free of resistance to any expressions of intelligence that pass through “you”. If you demonstrate total ease with the full spectrum of thought, including paradoxes and dark energies, score at 14.8.
To what extent do you experience your mind as an open channel for universal creativity and problem-solving?
In Stage 14, the mind becomes a clear conduit for cosmic intelligence to address any situation. It’s not that there’s no concern for the personal “self”, but when our personal “self” needs attention, there is 100% faith the universe will direct us there. If you consistently report these experiences, this strongly indicates Stage 14.
Free from desire to practiceIntelligence flows through me without resistance or sense of selfUnknown — ongoing evolution
Practices · Mind
  1. Free from desire to practice
Singular phase · stage 14 of 14 · Emotions
14
Flow · Emotions
Life in fluid motion
Free-flowing love
  • Emotions flow through me without resistance
  • I feel Life as a river of love
Can you say emotions flow through you without resistance?
Almost everyone experiences some resistance to some or all emotions. If they experience no such resistance most of the time, score between 14.0 and 14.5. This lack of resistance indicates a profound acceptance of all emotional states as natural expressions of life. It suggests a deep integration of emotional experiences without the need for control or manipulation.
Do you experience emotions as flows of feeling inseparable from universal being?
In Stage 14, emotions are consistently experienced as expressions of universal being. If this is their constant reality, score at 14.5 or higher; if it's frequent but not constant, score around 14.2. This experience reflects a dissolution of the boundary between personal and universal emotional states. It indicates a profound recognition of emotions as integral aspects of the fabric of existence itself.
To what extent do you find your emotional presence naturally attunes to and serves the needs of the collective without a need for a sense of individual agency?
Stage 14 involves being a spontaneous conduit for universal love and intelligence serving collective needs. If this occurs consistently across various contexts, score between 14.1 and 14.5. This natural attunement reflects a deep integration of individual and collective emotional fields. It suggests an effortless responsiveness to the emotional needs of others and the environment, without any sense of personal doing or achievement.
How often do you find that your emotional presence catalyzes spontaneous awakening or evolutionary leaps without any personal intention?
Stage 14 often involves being a transformative presence for collective evolution without individual agency. If this occurs regularly across various contexts, score at 14.1 or higher. This catalytic effect arises naturally from the individual's embodiment of universal love and consciousness. It reflects a profound alignment with evolutionary forces, where one's mere presence can initiate shifts in others' awareness, understanding, and feeling.
Free from desire to practiceEmotions flow through me without resistanceUnknown — ongoing evolution
Practices · Emotions
  1. Free of desire to practice.
Singular phase · stage 14 of 14 · Body
14
Flow · Body
Life in fluid motion
Body flows freely through the world
  • Life flows through my body without resistance or sense of self
  • My body is the dance of life
How would you describe the experience of your body moving through daily life?
At Stage 14, individuals often report a sense of effortless flow in their physical experiences. Look for descriptions of frictionless movement, a lack of resistance to physical sensations, and a feeling of being carried by the river of life.
In what ways do you notice life expressing itself through your body without your conscious direction?
Stage 14 is characterized by a surrender to the flow of life. Listen for examples of spontaneous physical responses, intuitive movements, or a sense that the body is acting as a conduit for a greater intelligence.
How has your relationship with physical limitations or challenges evolved recently?
In this stage, there's typically a complete acceptance of the body's current state without resistance. Pay attention to responses indicating an absence of struggle with physical conditions and challenges, and a recognition of these as part of the perfect unfolding of life.
Can you describe how you experience the boundary between your body and the environment?
Individuals in Stage 14 report feeling no boundary as truly solid. Yes, the skin is a boundary for some things, but even so, 100 trillion neutrinos pass through the skin every second, so it's obvious that boundaries and boundarylessness are both true. Look for descriptions of permeable or non-existent boundaries, or a felt sense of the body as an integral part of the entire cosmos.
How do you relate to physical pleasure and pain in your current experience?
At this stage, there's usually a non-reactive awareness of all sensations. Listen for indications that pleasure and pain are experienced fully, but without attachment or aversion, as natural aspects of the body's dance with life.
In moments of stillness or meditation, how do you perceive your physical form?
Stage 14 can bring experiences of the body as energy. Pay attention to descriptions of the body feeling transparent or being experienced as vibrations rather than a solid form. ©2019-2021 by WholeBeing Awakening LLC
Free from desire to practiceLife flows through my body without resistance or sense of selfUnknown — ongoing evolution
Practices · Body
  1. Free of desire to practice
Your self-assessment
Not yet exploredStage 2 · Self-CentricStage 3 · ConformingStage 4 · Rational StrivingStage 5 · Equality HarmonyStage 6 · InclusiveStage 7 · AwakeningStage 8 · OscillatingStage 9 · Embodied UnityStage 10 · TransformingStage 11 · IndividuatingStage 12 · Living PotentialStage 13 · Singular RealizationStage 14 · Flow
Not yet exploredStage 2 · Self-CentricStage 3 · ConformingStage 4 · Rational StrivingStage 5 · Equality HarmonyStage 6 · InclusiveStage 7 · AwakeningStage 8 · OscillatingStage 9 · Embodied UnityStage 10 · TransformingStage 11 · IndividuatingStage 12 · Living PotentialStage 13 · Singular RealizationStage 14 · Flow
Not yet exploredStage 2 · Self-CentricStage 3 · ConformingStage 4 · Rational StrivingStage 5 · Equality HarmonyStage 6 · InclusiveStage 7 · AwakeningStage 8 · OscillatingStage 9 · Embodied UnityStage 10 · TransformingStage 11 · IndividuatingStage 12 · Living PotentialStage 13 · Singular RealizationStage 14 · Flow
Not yet exploredStage 2 · Self-CentricStage 3 · ConformingStage 4 · Rational StrivingStage 5 · Equality HarmonyStage 6 · InclusiveStage 7 · AwakeningStage 8 · OscillatingStage 9 · Embodied UnityStage 10 · TransformingStage 11 · IndividuatingStage 12 · Living PotentialStage 13 · Singular RealizationStage 14 · Flow
Not yet exploredStage 2 · Self-CentricStage 3 · ConformingStage 4 · Rational StrivingStage 5 · Equality HarmonyStage 6 · InclusiveStage 7 · AwakeningStage 8 · OscillatingStage 9 · Embodied UnityStage 10 · TransformingStage 11 · IndividuatingStage 12 · Living PotentialStage 13 · Singular RealizationStage 14 · Flow

Comparison of Systems

Most mainstream psychological and cognitive approaches reach stage 6 only — and are severely limiting. As the modern psychological approaches were developed by people who have not yet experienced the boundless awareness of stage 7, their entire methodology and framework is generally designed to help a stage 4 based person maintain a better grip on their achievements. Burnout naturally results. The pain of that opens into preferring harmony over the rat race. Then eventually arriving at some dissolution of identifications of stage 6. The actual experience of boundlessness is simply not facilitated, as they have no access to it. So it is keeping our children in a very small sandbox prison. Relying on modern psychological frameworks is often limiting your experience to theirs.

Griggs–Strauss
Dual Perception
Unified
Singular
1Survival
2Self-Centric
3Conforming
4Rational Striving
5Equality Harmony
6Inclusive
7Awakening
8Oscillating
9Embodied Unity
10Transforming
11Individuating
12Living Potential
13Singular Realization
14Fluidity
15Radiant Freedom
16Unknown
Taoism
1–3
4–5
6
7
8–9
10
11
12
Zen
1–2
3–5
6
7
8–10
O’Fallon
Concrete
Subtle
Causal
NonDual
Wilber
Infrared
Magenta
Red
Blue
Orange
Green
Turquoise
White
Cook-Greuter
Impulsive 2
Self-protective opportunist 3
Conformist Self Aware E4 E5
Conscientious E6
Pluralistic Individualist E7
Autonomous E8
Construct Aware Ego Aware C9
C10 Unitive
Cowan and Beck
Beige
Red
Blue
Orange
Green
Yellow
Turquoise
Maslow
Physiological
Safety
Love Belonging
Esteem
Self Actualization
Self Transcendence
Loevinger
Impulsive 2
Self-protective opportunist 3
Conformist Self Aware E4 E5
Conscientious E6
Pluralistic Individualist E7
Autonomous E8
Fowler
Undifferentiated Magical
Mythic Literal
Conventional
Individual Reflexive
Conjunctive
Universalizing Commonwealth
Kohlberg
Obedience Punishment
Self Interest
Good boy/girl orientation
Law and order
Social contract
Universal principles
Gebser
Archaic Magical
Mythic
Rational
Pluralistic
Integral
Erikson
Hope
Will
Purpose
Confidence
Love
Kegan
0 and first order
Second order
Third order
Fourth order
Fifth order
Piaget
Sensory-motor
Preoperational
Concrete operational
Formal operational
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